Time is undoubtedly a precious resource. But is it okay to be inconsiderate towards a child’s basic needs to save yourself some time?
A netizen recently asked, “Am I a jerk for not letting my ex’s daughter use my bathroom?”. Read on to know what exactly happened.
BACKSTORY
The Original Poster’s (OP’s) ex was late picking up their son.
“It was annoying because I had an appointment and was running late,” says OP.
THEY WAITED
She (OP) got her son out, and they waited in OP’s car out front so she could hand him off and take off as soon as OP’s ex arrived.
AS SOON AS OP’S EX CAME
When OP saw her ex pulling up, she told her son to hop out.
“As I was about to leave, my ex called out and asked if his daughter could use my bathroom. I said no, I have to be somewhere and took off,” says OP.
EX SAID SHE IS BEING SPITEFUL
Later, OP’s ex said she was being spiteful about him being late and taking it out on his daughter.
“That’s not true, though. I just had to be somewhere I needed to be,” says OP.
WHAT DOES OP SAY?
“I think he’s mad because his daughter ended up having an accident in his car, and he doesn’t want to blame himself for not planning better,” says OP.
Is OP a jerk?
THIS IS HIS PROBLEM
“Not the jerk. This is your ex’s problem, not yours. You were running late because of him. He could have stopped anywhere so his daughter could use the restroom.”
YOUR EX SOUNDS IRRESPONSIBLE
“Not the jerk. Your ex sounds irresponsible (late to pick up your son and waits to the point of an accident to let his child use a bathroom).
You were running late and would have had to wait until she was out of the house to lock the doors (it does not sound like he is even responsible enough to do that). He should have taken her to a McDonald’s, for heaven’s sake.”
EXTENUATING CIRCUMSTANCES
“Not the jerk. Extenuating circumstances. You were in your car running late. You had no way to know the urgency or what would happen. You just wanted to get to your appointment.”
HIS POOR PLANNING IS TO BLAME
“Not the jerk. You are not required to allow anyone to use your bathroom, even if you are not risking being late. Poor planning on your ex’s part is not an emergency for you.
THAT’S NOT COOL
“Everyone’s in the wrong. Would you have waited for anyone else’s daughter? If a friend were dropping off something you needed, would you have let your friend’s daughter use the bathroom? Your anger at your ex should not have extended to putting his daughter in that position.”
YOU WERE BEING PETTY AND SPITEFUL
“You’re the jerk. You were already late. How can you deny a child’s use of the bathroom? It shouldn’t matter who the child is. What kind of lesson does that teach his child? That’s cold. Petty and spiteful. You could have easily told your ex to pick up your son from where you must be.”
YOU WERE ALREADY HELD UP
“Not the jerk. You were already held up. Why should your ex get to delay you even more than he already has? Not the kid’s fault, but he didn’t respect your time.”
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This article was originally published on Mrs. Daaku Studio.