While various motivations might drive someone to object at a wedding, such as fear, jealousy, or a misguided sense of control, disrupting this sacred moment is never justified.
A user took the forum and asked has anyone had ever been to a wedding where someone objected, and if so, how did that go? Here are the top responses.
GROOM WAS LYING
“About half of the weddings don’t have that part, not because of feared objections, but because it is outdated and weird. Divorce is a thing. Weddings cost over $10k; if you know reasons to stop a marriage (outside of movies), you must intervene at the engagement or earlier –not during the ceremony.
That said, one of my wife’s college roommates canceled a wedding a day or two days before graduating college, after being in a long-distance relationship with some guy for a year or so. Her family was quite well off, and she was dating a guy who lavished gifts and expensive dates on her whenever they were together; he said he ran his own company, just bought them a fancy house, etc.
It turns out he was just super in debt, working a near-minimum-wage job and maxing out credit cards taken out fraudulently. He had a fake web page with other employees for his company that he set up to keep up the front. The house was only bought from grossly lying about income (pre-2007 housing crisis) on the mortgage application, and he was drowning in debt.
The almost-bride’s father got bad vibes about the guy (a few things didn’t add up like he had this fancy house but couldn’t afford any furniture), and he hired a PI who quickly uncovered the deception. (And she didn’t break up because he wasn’t rich; she broke up because he spent tons of effort to lie about everything and was completely conning her and just trying to get her roped into joint ownership of his debt via marriage that he expected the family to pay off.).”
HUSBAND’S FIRST MARRIAGE
“My husband’s first marriage. The bride’s brother stood up and told my husband, “Say no, you can still be happy!”
They went through with the marriage and wound up divorcing with a breakup. My Brother-in-law is still best friends with my husband (as far as he’s concerned, he gained a brother and lost a sister and is better off for it), and he never lets him forget that he was right and should have bailed, lol.”
“I worked a wedding where one of the moms objected, but I think the groom knew that the parent was going to say something, so they just responded with, “Oh sit down, (parents name), we knew you didn’t like this a year ago, and we’re not going to change our minds today.” The wedding continued as if nothing happened, but the mom was lowkey shunned, and people avoided her at the reception.”
GROOM’S PARENTS’ OBJECTION
“This was in America, and the wedding was in a Buddhist temple. The groom’s parents stood up and objected because they didn’t believe the bride was of the same class. They spoke another language, so most English-speaking guests didn’t know they were objecting.
My husband was the best man, and those closest to the couple knew this might happen. The Buddhist priest said he would handle it if the parents tried anything.
After the parents spoke for a while, the priest said to the groom, “You’ve heard what your parents had to say; what do you want to do?” The groom replied, “I want to marry my bride.” So the priest asked the parents to leave.
At this point, the rest of the guests are clueing in that this was not a nice part of the ceremony and that the parents were actually objecting, so, as the parents walked out, some of the guests were berating them, saying things like, “You should be ashamed of yourself” and “How could you do that?” And even though the groom was not happy with his parents, that was very hard for him to hear.
That was 30 years ago. The couple is still married, and they have two beautiful, successful children. After the groom’s mom passed away, his father came around and was involved in their lives until he died.”
“A woman in her 20s objected to her mom marrying my uncle. So she started yelling, “Mom, don’t marry him!” during the ceremony. The ceremony proceeded, and some family on the mom’s side led the daughter away to quit interrupting. I don’t blame her-my uncle was a lying, lazy people. The marriage didn’t last.”
“At my cousin’s wedding, her friend said, “I object” because she was not invited to the wedding. She was kicked out of the wedding.”
GROOM’S FUN TURNED INTO A SERIOUS ISSUE
“A relative visited one ceremony where it was asked if anyone objected, and the groom decided it was a good time for a joke and said, “I do.” The lady who was going to marry the couple just turned and left, and they had to go through all the paperwork again and change the date. I got married and divorced in three years if I remember correctly.”
UNCLE’S MARRIAGE OBJECTED TO BY HIS MOTHER
“My uncle was getting married. Small, just a handful of family and a minister, and I was videotaping.
My grandmother was not into it at all. With each line, the minister spoke, she had a cutting, sarcastic response. I could not believe it. It was so unlike her; when that part came up, she said, “I object. But does it matter? They are going to do it anyway.”
The minister just ignored her and proceeded with business as usual. They were divorced within a year.”
FUTURE BIL OBJECTED
“Not a wedding I attended, but my best friend attended her aunt’s wedding. Aunt’s future (toxic) MIL whips out proof from Ancestry that they’re first cousins. The wedding was canceled, and the bride/groom hasn’t spoken since.”
“This will sound stupid, but when I was a kid, my deeply religious aunt had her wedding at a local church. During the “objecting” part, lightning struck very near the church.
I remember to this day how the following thunder was so loud that the fancy windows of the church started rattling. Well, the timing of the strike was very unfortunate for my uncle because my aunt took this as a sign of a god objecting to her marriage and called the wedding off on the spot.
Needless to say, they married on the same day a year later, and this time without “objection from a god.” They are still married to this day.”
BRIDESMAID MOM OBJECTED
“The mom of one of the Bridesmaids got up and yelled, “Yeah, I object: You stole him from her!” While pointing at the bride. I’ve known the groom for a long time and, by proxy, the bride.
I am still friends with them. I have never seen her more angry than at that moment. The bridesmaid got up from her chair and was like, “I’m so, so sorry. Let me get her out of here.” The bridesmaid and the bride’s stepfather escorted the woman out of the wedding, and it continued.“
“The groom objected. He sent his best man a note and a photo. Texts between the bride and a different groomsman and their relationship. I thought it was a stunt or tv. crazy. That was real.”
“My grandmother objected to my sister’s wedding. My sister was a Florida-based Italian Catholic and somewhat conservative individual who fell in love with a progressive New York Jew.
My Nonna said it wouldn’t work and it would change one of them, and she was worried about it changing her granddaughter. My parents managed to get her away from the wedding, and it continued. My sister is now neither Catholic nor conservative, so my Nonna was absolutely right.”
POLITICAL DIFFERENCE AS REASON FOR OBJECTION
“At my brother’s wedding, the wife’s older brother objected because of political differences. He was asked to leave by the bride’s father.”
GROOM RAN AWAY
“It didn’t happen at that but on the wedding day. I was going to my aunt’s fourth wedding and pretty much was only there for the free food. Before the ceremony was about to begin, my brother overheard my uncle, who has never gotten along with my aunt, talking to the groom and telling him, “You’re better off running, lad. Her past three marriages have ended up dead due to car crashes. It’s a bit odd, don’t you think?”
The groom thought this was odd and asked me, my brother, two of our cousins, and our other aunt if what my uncle said was true. We told him it was and thought the bride would have told him beforehand. It turns out she never disclosed the fact she had been previously married before. So the groom fled the church.
Safe to say it was a dramatic day after that.”
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