A bride-to-be finds herself in a predicament as her sister has requested a change in the wedding time due to a conflict with her son’s nap schedule.
A user asked the forum, “Am I a jerk for telling my sister the world doesn’t revolve around her and her son?”. Read the complete story to know what happened.
BACKSTORY
The Original Poster, OP [F24] is marrying her fiancé [M26] in October. They got engaged in January and couldn’t be more excited.
OP says that it’s a very small wedding, and they are only inviting close family and friends. The problem is with her sister Lisa [F30].
HOW IS OP’S RELATIONSHIP WITH HER SISTER?
Lisa has a 2-year-old son with her husband. She says she doesn’t have a super affectionate relationship with Lisa for multiple reasons that she can’t fit into the post.
They sent out the wedding invites last month.
WHAT’S HER WEDDING TIME?
Their wedding ceremony starts at 1:30 pm, and they asked their guests to arrive at the venue by 1:00. She says that the venue is in their hometown so are the majority of the people on our guest list, including Lisa.
WHAT DID HER SISTER SAY?
Lisa told her that the time ‘wouldn’t work’ because of her 2-year-old’s nap schedule.
Her sister said he takes a nap at 12 and that she’s not forcing him to be awake to prepare him for the event, or he will be a terror.
WHAT DID OP THINK?
OP says she doesn’t have kids, but she thought this was a silly reason.
She asked Lisa if she could find a babysitter, and her sister said she couldn’t because everyone she trusts will be at the wedding.
WHAT DID OP SUGGEST?
OP suggested that they at least attend the reception, but she said she won’t if she can’t be at the wedding. Lisa said she wouldn’t attend the wedding unless they changed the time.
OP told her that they couldn’t do that. Lisa said she was not going then.
WHAT HAPPENED NEXT?
OP says that immensely hurt her. She says that she wasn’t sure how to react at the moment, so she just abruptly ended the conversation with an excuse.
A few days later, Lisa asked if she thought about her suggestion.
WHAT WAS OP’S FINAL DECISION?
OP reminded her there was no way they could change the time.
Lisa told her that she hoped she was happy that they weren’t attending and said that everyone was going to ask why she was not there, and it was all because she couldn’t accommodate her nephew.
WHAT DID OP FINALLY SAY?
OP snapped at her and told her the world doesn’t revolve around her and her son. Liza called her a bridezilla and blocked her.
OP’s mom is pestering her to make amends with Lisa, but she just doesn’t think she is in the wrong.
Now OP wants to know if she is at fault here.
SHE IS ENTITLED
“I get why you don’t have a good relationship with Lisa; the entitlement is through the roof.”
IT IS RIDICULOUS
“I have a 2.5-year-old, and while it’s nice for her to have consistent naps, there are times when she’s gone down earlier/later to accommodate appointments or visits.
There are still 3? months until the wedding; I think that’s plenty of time to find a babysitter and build a good rapport with them. What about the family on her hubby’s side? I’m assuming they wouldn’t be at the wedding.
Her asking to change the time is ridiculous. She should know the planning, costs, and timing associated with weddings and that vendors aren’t necessarily going to be able to budge on time (nor should they have to).”
THAT’S HER FAULT
“Asking someone to rearrange their entire wedding to accommodate your kid’s nap schedule is beyond ridiculous and entitled, no matter how you relate to them. If she doesn’t come, that’s on her, not you.”
TELL THEM THE TRUTH
“When people ask why she isn’t there, tell them the truth: “Lisa wanted us to change the time to accommodate her son’s nap and refused to attend when we couldn’t.”
ENJOY YOUR DAY
“ I feel you will have a better time without her anyway! Enjoy your big day!”
SHE SHOULD NOT DICTATE YOUR WEDDING
“I’m not sure what the issue is. If she’s not coming, you don’t have to put up with her nonsense or her screaming child. She doesn’t get to dictate your wedding schedule. Let her stay home and pout.”
It is your wedding, having it at whatever time you want. She is being super tricky and selfish. Let everyone know that she didn’t like to attend due to her son’s nap schedule and that you offered for her to at least attend the reception, but she refused.
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