No bride can tolerate her bridesmaids wanting to wear something more revealing than herself on her big day!

An internet user asked, “Am I a jerk for telling my sister to change her dress or she is not welcome to my wedding?”. We need to hear your thoughts on the matter!


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The Original Poster (OP) is a 26-year-old female. OP’s sister is two years older than her. OP’s fiance is a 30-year-old male. 

“We were raised in a liberal home where we were allowed to wear anything or nothing at home,” says OP. 


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Her (OP’s) sister has always dressed provocatively, and OP didn’t mind because OP was used to it at home.

“But this time, I feel this way because my wedding will be in February 2024, and my sister, one of the bridesmaids, has shown me what she intends to wear. I was shocked, to say the least,” says OP. 


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The dress OP’s sister had selected shows clearly that she’s not wearing undergarments because it has a slit up to her waist, and her back and chest are barely covered. 

“I’m uncomfortable with her being around other people looking like that, especially my fiance and his family,” says OP. 


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OP’s parents see nothing wrong with OP’s sister’s outfit. OP told her sister if she doesn’t find a different, more decent dress, then she is no longer one of the bridesmaids, and she’s not invited to her wedding anymore. 


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Her (OP’s) sister feels that OP is being unfair since she has no right to control what people wear, and OP also lets all bridesmaids choose whatever design they want as long as they stick to the colors she gave.

“Her chosen color sticks to the color scheme, and that’s okay, but the design makes me feel it’s not appropriate,” says OP. 


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She (OP) doesn’t want her sister scandalizing her guests, but her sister called OP a jerk when OP disinvited her.

“Now she and my parents are not talking to me. My fiance said he had no opinion and would go with my decision. Am I a jerk?” asks OP.

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“Not the jerk. That dress is inappropriate for your wedding. This is also incredibly attention-seeking, and your sister is not the main character at your wedding. She should choose something else.” 


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“Not the jerk. Part of being an adult is adhering to dress codes when you go to places. Weddings have dress codes; your sister can adhere to the dress code or stay home.” 


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“Not the jerk. It’s your wedding! You absolutely can tell her what to wear! If it was a different event, you’ve got no chance of dictating what she can wear.”


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“Not the jerk. You have been very flexible by allowing your bridesmaids to choose the style, but it stands to reason that the bride would not want her attendants to look like streetwalkers. You have the ultimate say! It sounds like your sister has a lack of good sense.” 


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“Not the jerk. If your sister were a wedding guest perhaps, but as one of your bridesmaids, it’s customary not to outshine the bride, and this will most definitely be a major distraction.” 


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“It’s your wedding, and you’re not the jerk to want bridesmaids to be dressed a certain way. It’s not a night out at the club to wear clothes that reveal everything. I don’t think you’re the jerk for wanting the bridesmaids to be dressed appropriately. There is time and place for everything.” 

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