Would you allow a child with a lice-loaded head to be around a baby who’s barely a week old?

An internet user asked, “Am I a jerk for not letting my stepdaughter near my new baby?”. 

We need you to find out!


Happy mother with newborn baby
Image Credits: Deposit Photos

The Original Poster (OP) gave birth to her daughter eight days ago. She has 3 step kids: James (12M), Amanda (11F), and Chris(7M).

“All of them are great kids, and I have been in their lives for 6.5 years. We have them every weekend and rotating holidays (as well as a few extra weeks during summer break).”, says OP. 


Confused young woman shrugging shoulders, don't know what to say, isolated on white background. Body language. Studio shot
Image Credits: Deposit Photos

The issue is that all the stepkids just started school, which comes with storms. For example, Amanda keeps sharing hats and headbands with her classmates, and she frequently comes home with new ones because she and her friends ‘switched’ for the day. 

Due to this, she has gotten a bad case of head lice, which has always been an issue with Amanda. She gets head lice every year and refuses to stop sharing her hats, so the cycle continues. It’s not her mother’s or the school’s fault.


Child suffering from quarrels between parents in the family at home. Domestic violence and Family conflict concept. Sadness little girl against blured of mother fighting father with quarrel at home.
Image Credits: Deposit Photos

Amanda has been told several times that this is unacceptable, and OP’s family is tired of buying lice treatments just for her to get lice again. Even though her mom has treated her hair twice since school started, Amanda’s hair has yet to improve because she won’t stop taking and wearing her best friend’s hats, and her friend often has head lice.


Argument between annoyed Asian teenage daughter and upset middle aged mother. The child covering ears while mum pointing finger at. Bad, unhealthy, toxic family relationship concept
Image Credits: Deposit Photos

So, OP has started refusing to let Amanda near the new baby. 

“I don’t want the baby getting head lice, and she has a lot of hair already,” says OP. 


Portrait of a frightened woman, isolated on an blue studio background
Image Credits: Deposit Photos

This is “mentally destroying” Amanda (her words). However, she still refuses to stop sharing headwear, so OP will continue this until her head lice are under control and until she sees the importance of what they tell her. 


MODEL covering her face with her hands, being devastated and crying. Sad concept
Image Credits: Deposit Photos

As for Chris and James, they hold the baby often, and it messes with OP’s stepdaughter’s head because she isn’t allowed to touch the baby at all. 

“I feel utterly terrible about it because I love my step babies, and I want my stepdaughter to be able to hold and love on her sister, but I don’t feel comfortable given that she won’t stop sharing and spreading head lice wear. Am I a jerk?” asks OP. 


Closeup photo of attractive lady short bob hairstyle not smiling bad mood listen awful news open mouth, wear casual formalwear green shirt isolated blue color background
Image Credits: Deposit Photos

OP’s husband is getting annoyed at OP and has given OP the cold shoulder, but he hasn’t said anything thus far. Amanda’s biological mom is on OP’s side and thinks maybe it will “teach her” that she can’t do this anymore.


Photo of funny young guy shrug shoulders wearing green t-shirt dissatisfied misunderstanding dude chill isolated on violet background.
Image Credits: Deposit Photos

“Not the jerk, why expose your newborn to lice? Your stepdaughter is now experiencing the unpleasant conclusion of her actions. She needs to learn that her actions have consequences that can adversely affect others and not just herself.” 


I don't know. Portrait of confused beautiful woman in glasses with wavy blond hair standing, raised arms, confused and thinking. Indoor studio shot isolated on gray background.
Image Credits: Deposit Photos

“Your baby is barely a week old. They’re fragile at that age, and their security should be your absolute priority. The stepdaughter’s ego can take a hit, and it will recover. A baby having head lice and undergoing treatment might be a much harder time for you. I wouldn’t risk it either. Not the jerk.” 


on a pink background young woman throw up his hand
Image Credits: Deposit Photos

“Not the jerk! She’s old enough to understand that her actions have consequences. If she wants to constantly have bugs in her hair, that’s her choice, but an innocent newborn shouldn’t be subjected to it. Your husband is beyond a jerk if he isn’t supporting you.” 


Photo of unhappy aggressive brunette hair woman wear red dot shirt wtf confused reaction problems loser isolated on cyan color background.
Image Credits: Deposit Photos

“Not the jerk. I’m no medical expert, but keeping anything harmful from your baby is a solid call. She can stop sharing hats and getting lice if she wants to hold the baby. It’s not rocket science.” 


Photo of shocked confused guy dressed purple t-shirt open mouth isolated yellow color background.
Image Credits: Deposit Photos

“Not the jerk. This is a lesson in consequences. They’re not fun to watch. Swift and consistent consequences are the way. She’s not too young to understand the no-swapping hats rule.” 

More From Mrs Daaku Studio

Image Credits: Deposit Photos

Mother loses her calm as Son refuses to help with younger siblings on a vacation. Says “If You Cannot Help The Woman That Birthed You, Get Out and Pay For Yourself”. Thinks It’s Fair. Read what happened here. 

Father Corrects Teacher’s Pronunciation of Daughter’s Name; School Accuses Him of ‘Questioning Authority’. Is This Ok?

Girl looking desperate about angry mother. Mother shouting to unhappy daughter.
Image Credits: Deposit Photos

A father has to deal with school authorities who accused him of questioning authority. says, the only thing he did was correct pronunciation. Read: Father Corrects Teacher’s Pronunciation of Daughter’s Name; School Accuses Him of ‘Questioning Authority’. Is This Ok?

Her Family Invites Her Over and asks NOT To Bring Her Adopted Kid. Suggest “Sending Her To Sleep Away Camp.” Is This Justified?

Wrong behaviour. Aggressive angty mother and father screaming on a kid while being in a room
Image Credits: Deposit Photos

What do you do if your family isn’t supportive of the adopted child you have? Read – Her Family Invites Her Over, Asks NOT To Bring Her Adopted Kid. Suggest “Sending Her To Sleep Away Camp”. Is This Justified?

Wife Decides To Teach Son’s A Lesson, Cuts Short Vacation Time To 1 Day. Husband and Mother-in-Law ACCUSE Her Of “Ruining It”; Give Silent Treatment. Is She Right?

Really annoyed man in black t-shirt against grey background
Image Credits: Deposit Photos

The wife decides that she needs to teach Son’s a lesson, and cuts short vacation time to 1 day. Their husband and mother-in-law accuse her of “ruining it” and give the silent treatment. Is she right? We definitely think so. Read what happened.

Boyfriend Furious As Girlfriend Takes His 1967 Impala To Scrapyard Behind His Back. Says, “I’ll Sue You and Make You Pay”. Is This Really Messed Up?

angry hatred
Image Credits: Roman Samborskyi, Shutterstock

Boyfriend furious as girlfriend takes his 1967 impala to scrapyard behind his back. Says, “I’ll Sue you and make you pay”. Is this really messed up? Read what happened here.

This article was originally published on Mrs Daaku Studio.

Similar Posts