It’s not only foolish to show up at someone else’s place with the one thing they have a problem with. It’s straight-up disrespectful!
A netizen recently asked, “Am I a jerk for not letting a service dog into my party?”. Let’s look into this matter!
BACKSTORY
The Original Poster (OP) (29M) hosted a pumpkin carving party for himself and his friends this weekend.
“A decision I made is causing drama amongst us,” says OP.
THE NO-ANIMAL RULE
The party was indoors as it’s still nearly 100° Fahrenheit during the day where OP is.
“I dislike cats and dogs, any and all. My friends know this. Primarily, I think they are filthy. I want nothing to do with them because of that,” says OP.
THE UNINVITED GUEST AT THE PARTY
OP’s friend and his current casual girlfriend showed up. She had a golden retriever with her.
“I did not know this dog was coming. No one ran this by me. I would have said no,” says OP.
WHAT DID OP DO NEXT?
He (OP) pulled the guy aside and told him the dog had to go. He says if the dog has to go, she has to go, and then he has to go.
“I just say, come on man, you should know better than to bring a dog to my house,” says OP.
SOME BACK-AND FORTH
The guy said that it was a service animal, apparently for Diabetes, and that he thought it would be different. He (OP) said “No, it might medically help her, but it’s still an animal”. He started arguing, but OP maintained his stance. OP offered to keep it in the garage with the Air Conditioner (AC) on.
THEY LEFT
The friend goes and talks to his girl, and she looks annoyed. OP felt terrible about that.
“They opted to leave. He lets me know I’m a jerk. My friends were all split on how I handled it. Am I a jerk?” asks OP.
THAT WAS A JERK MOVE
“Not the jerk. If someone showed up at my home with a service dog that was not discussed beforehand, I would let them know my home is animal-free and, while I understand that she may need the dog for her health, it wasn’t allowed in my home.
I’ve had golden retrievers in the past. I loved them, but they shed. I no longer love dogs like I once did, and someone else’s dog’s hair on my things is a no for me.
Your tone may have been harsh, but showing up with an animal to your home without talking to you and expecting you to accommodate them is a jerk move.”
THEY HAVE SOME NERVE
“Not the jerk. They just showed up and expected to treat your home like a public space. They got some nerve. It was a jerk move.
Your ‘friend’ should have asked instead of just springing it on you. It’s like he was trying to shame you into allowing the dog and was shocked when his attempt backfired.”
IT’S YOUR HOUSE
“It’s your house, not a business. A party you threw. He knew you weren’t a fan. The reason she brought him was irrelevant; he should’ve asked regardless. Not the jerk.”
NOT THE JERK
“Not the jerk. Your place, your rules. You offered to accommodate the dog in the garage.
It’s not his place to assume. All he had to do was text you beforehand and ask. Totally his fault.”
YOUR FRIEND SHOULD HAVE NOTIFIED YOU
“Not the jerk. Only businesses and workplaces are required to allow service animals. Even then, they can be asked to leave if they become a nuisance. Private individuals can choose not to allow animals in their homes.
Your friend should’ve notified you beforehand and asked if you would accommodate his girlfriend. There are so many ways to monitor blood sugar these days that a dog may be one of the less effective ways.”
BOUNDARIES ARE IMPORTANT
“Not the jerk. Yes, service dogs are important, but so are your boundaries, house, and rules! If he was your friend, he should know the rules in your house and should have called to check instead of just assuming!”
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