We read a story online about a young man who didn’t go to his graduation party. His dad was really mad, but we understand and support the son.
An internet user asked, Am I a jerk for not attending my graduation party and telling everyone why when they asked? We want to hear your thoughts.
Backstory:
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OP’s family had not celebrated anything to do with him since he was 12 years old. His dad and his dad’s new wife had a baby that year, and he was kind of forgotten about it. OP would get birthday presents and such but no party or anything.
What Does OP Say
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OP says, “I got used to it and started a tradition of celebrating with my friends. We would go see movies. One of my friend’s mom found out and started making me a cake every year for my birthday.”
What Happened When OP Graduated?
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When OP graduated from high school, he had saved up enough money to go on a week-long vacation in NYC with his best friend and her mom to see Hadestown.
What Does He Say
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OP says, “I just finished university and am starting my new job immediately. I guess my dad had planned a big party for me as a surprise but I didn’t show up because I went out with my friends instead.”
Everyone Started Questioning
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When OP’s family started asking him why he didn’t show up after his father had gone through all the effort for him, OP explained that he hadn’t celebrated anything of his in ten years, and OP didn’t know he had planned to do so this time.
OP’s dad told everyone he was lying so OP asked him to post any pictures he had from his birthday parties, extracurricular activities, or high school graduation.
The Final Fuss
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OP says, “He obviously couldn’t, and everyone started talking bad about him. Now he is mad for talking about private family matters.
I am just going to go over there and pick up the few things I have left in that house and just move to my new city without dealing with this anymore. Am I a jerk?”
How Dare You!!!
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“How dare you tell the truth about me being a horrible parent! Really? People always call them private family matters when they know their behavior is indefensible.”
OP, You Do You
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“You can’t attend a party you didn’t know about! He’s now mad because you called him out on his lies and proved to the family that he hasn’t actually celebrated anything for you in years. It makes him look bad, obviously and that’s what he’s mad about. You do you! Good luck with your new job and your move!”
That Was A Brilliant Way To Put Him In His Place
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“What a brilliant way of putting him in his place. You were honest with people. He publicly accused you of lying. You proved he was the one lying. He now thinks you’re wrong for talking about private family matters. Funny how he was okay talking about them publicly until he got his crap handed to him.”
That’s Not How You Throw A Surprise Party
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“When you throw someone a surprise party you have to actually get them there somehow. Unless you had plans with your dad that you ditched without notice, he messed this one up big time.”
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