Opinions and perspectives are shaped by individual experiences and beliefs, which can vary significantly from person to person. While we may not always agree with others, it is essential to approach differences with respect and an open mind to foster understanding and healthy discourse.
A Redditor took to the forum and asked, “Am I wrong for wanting to limit my brother-in-law’s (BIL) access to my unborn daughter because of his dating choices?”
Backstory:
The Original Poster (OP) is about a 31-year-old woman who is pregnant with a girl. Her husband, who is 33, has a younger brother with who he is very close. However, OP recently expressed to her husband that she was uncomfortable with his brother spending much time with their daughter once she was born.
The reason for this discomfort had nothing to do with her brother-in-law personally, as they are not close, and he seemed fine. Instead, the concern lay with his life choices.
According to OP, the 31-year-old younger brother was unmarried and had no desire to have children. He only dates for physical purposes and typically dates multiple women who are also extremely attractive.
Despite being highly intelligent, he had no interest in pursuing meaningful relationships.
When OP questioned his choices a few years ago, he accused her of being “moralistic.” He claimed he always used protection and never misled the women he dated. However, OP did not believe that, as she found that hard to believe that any woman with a ticking biological clock would willingly enter into a relationship with no future.
Additionally, she questioned why any woman would want to be with someone who may not even remember their name in a year.
What Happened Next?
OP mentioned this to her husband; however, he called OP a jerk. He said that limiting their daughter’s access to her uncle was ridiculous because he disagreed with his dating choices.
She asks, “Am I wrong?”
What do you think? Was OP right in wanting to limit her BIL’s access to the daughter because of his dating choices? Was OP’s husband right in calling her wrong in this matter? What would you do?
This article originally appeared in Mrs. Daaku Studio.