The Original Poster (OP) of this story has a daughter named Ruby. She is 12 years old now. She asks, “Am I wrong for not reimbursing my nanny for books she bought for my daughter?“
Here Is The Story For You:
Recently, OP’s daughter started getting interested in the original Star Trek show and the Next Generation. Ruby is also a big reader and collects a few of the old Star Trek books she finds in used bookstores and thrift stores. These books usually cost anywhere from 50 cents to a couple of dollars.
OP also has a nanny for her, Tessa, a 22-year-old female. After school, Tessa spends the most day of her days with Ruby. Tessa has been OP’s nanny for over a year, and she and Ruby got along incredibly.
Tessa is also into thrifting and often keeps an eye out for the books Ruby wants. This is not typically a problem, and Ruby always pays Tessa back for the texts using her allowance.
What Happened Next?
Recently, Tessa went on a family vacation out west. She went thrifting during this trip and found some books for Ruby. She texted Ruby asking her if she wanted the books, and Ruby said yes.
Yesterday, Tessa returned with 35 books and told Ruby they cost $50. As you may expect from a child, Ruby said he doesn’t have this much money.
What Did Tessa Do?
Tessa then asked OP if she could reimburse the money for the book she got for Ruby. OP refused to pay the money, stating that Tessa never OP about buying Ruby the books.
OP further stated that she wasn’t aware of the conversation between them.
Tessa got upset, and OP asked Ruby to show me the text where Tessa did not mention the price or the number of books she bought and Tessa only said that she found “some” books for Ruby.
According to OP, it is essential to note that Ruby is on the autism spectrum and does not read between the lines. You have to be very literal with Ruby for her to understand the consequences.
What Happened Next?
OP states that Tessa has only bought Ruby one or two books at a time. So OP told Tessa that she should have clarified with Ruby regarding the amount or double-checked with OP before purchasing and that she would not be paying the $50.
Tessa said she could not return the books because they came from the thrift store. However, OP stood firm in her decision and reiterated that OP should have asked first.
Tessa left, and Ruby was distraught. OP asks on a popular forum, “I know Tessa is a student and does not have a ton of money, so am I the jerk for not paying Tessa for the books?”
Before jumping to conclusions, OP offered a few edits to better understand the story.
What Does OP Want You To Know?
OP clarifies that she is a single parent to Ruby. She says, “while 50 dollars will not make or break the bank, it is an unexpected expense. I give Tessa extra monthly money to spend on whatever she wants to do with Ruby (movies, the mall, etc.). If she wanted to spend this fund on books for Ruby, that would have been fine- but she had already used it up.“
For those now wondering how she can afford a nanny and fuss over $50, she says, “I do not pay for Tessa’s services. Because Ruby is on the spectrum, she is entitled to benefits from our state, including care. The agency I work with pays Tessa, and I am not involved in that process at all.”
What do you think? Was OP right in refusing to pay for it? Was it inappropriate for Tessa to spend $50 without asking OP and conversing with a 12-year-30old?
This post originally appeared on Mrs. Daaku Studio.