Birthdays hold a special significance, but can you be forgiven if you overlook your girlfriend’s birthday party? This predicament poses a delicate dilemma.

The Original Poster (OP) took it to the forum, and asked, “Am I wrong for ignoring my girlfriend on her birthday?”. We want to hear from you. 


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OP was invited to attend his girlfriend’s 21st birthday party. 


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They celebrated her first birthday together since they have been dating for 7 months. It was also OP’s first time meeting his girlfriend’s entire family except her parents. 


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OP has been living abroad for 11 years now, but he is originally from Romania, from a region called Maramures. 


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OP had earlier heard from his girlfriend that she has a grandmother who is from Romania. But they never really talked about it in detail. 


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At his girlfriend’s birthday party, OP met her grandmother and started talking to her. He came to know that not only was she Romanian, but she was also from Maramures. 


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OP could not believe how small the world is, and kept talking to her for a long time. 


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OP was having a good time, because after a long time, he could finally speak in his native language. They talked a lot and reminisced about a lot of things together. 


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OP kept talking to his girlfriend’s grandmother for most of the party. He gave his girlfriend attention when she asked him to take photos with her and during the cake-cutting event.


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After the party was done, OP’s girlfriend told her that she felt neglected by him because he didn’t give her much of his time and attention on her birthday.

Now OP wants to know if what he did is wrong.


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“I would think she’d be excited that you connected so well with her grandmother. Family approval makes relationships a lot easier.

That being said, you probably could have done a better job striking a balance between talking to her grandmother and hanging out with her during the party. It’s hard to fault her based on your description of events.”, said one user.

You Didn’t Mean It

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“You didn’t mean it, you’re not a bad person, but you still hurt someone and should apologize to make it right. It’s not a big deal, unless you make it one by refusing to apologize.”, said another user. 

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