Having your sister by your side on your wedding day is a priceless blessing, but how do you cope when she doesn’t support you or confuses you about your big day?
A user asked on forum, Am I wrong for not inviting my unsupportive sister to my wedding? We want to know what you think, here is the full story for you.
Backstory
The original Post (OP) is about a female who is 24 years old and got engaged to Derrick (30 years old male) one month ago.
Before that, they had known each other for six months, and OP knew that was a short time. However, they were madly in love and ready to commit themselves to each other fully.
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What Happened Next?
OP’s sister (26 F) had a problem with that. She was supportive of OP’s relationship with Derrick before they got engaged. When OP sent her a text telling her they were engaged, she said congratulations.
What Happened Next
But then, when OP saw her the week after, she got all serious and said she should strongly reconsider the marriage.
She told OP she was young and could meet people she loved more. That was offensive to OP because she loved Derrick more than anything. OP’s sister basically said that her love isn’t that important.
They Could Date Longer
She also told OP that Derrick and OP could date for longer before they got married. According to OP, they are already fully committed to each other, so they could get married and be recognized as soul mates in the eyes of the law.
Conversation Was Hurtful
The conversation was hurtful for OP. OP eventually asked her sister directly whether she supported her in marrying Derrick, and she replied no. So OP stood up, told her that she shouldn’t be at the wedding if she didn’t want them to get married, and left. OP hasn’t talked to her since, although OP’s sister had texted OP multiple times asking to talk.
OP Didn’t Invite The Sister. Was She Wrong?
Derrick and OP were working on the wedding guest list yesterday, and they both agreed that OP’s sister should not come if she doesn’t support them. So they planned not to invite her.
OP mentioned this to her friend yesterday, and she pointed out that it may be rude of OP not to invite her. So, OP asks, “Is she wrong for not inviting her unsupportive sister to the wedding?”
You Don’t Know Him
“You have not known him long enough to actually love him, you are infatuated. On top of that you are ready to ruin the relationship with your sister for a guy you actually do not know?
Edit: The fact that he is ready to allow for estrangement is very concerning.
Second edit: Narcissists and abusers like to isolate their victims. That is my concern regarding him encouraging the rift with her sister.”
Your Sister Is Right
“Your sister is in the right here. The fact that you’re willing to throw away what sounds like an otherwise close relationship for this is concerning, and the fact that your fiance is encouraging it rather than being the voice of reason is beyond concerning”.
You Are A Jerk
“Yup, you nailed this one. YTA.
I’ve had pimples longer than you’ve known your partner, yet you are already going to destroy a lifelong relationship when they share their concerns. She even tried to reach back out to you to see what can be done to fix this, and you ignore it”.
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