While it’s natural to anticipate some reciprocity when assisting a family member, there’s typically nothing amiss with this expectation. However, what if you find yourself in a situation where you request a minor favor, only to encounter resistance from everyone around you?
A user took to the forum and asked, “Am I wrong for making my younger sister watch my baby?”
Backstory
The Original Poster (OP) is a 24-year-old female who lives in her apartment. OP’s fiancé was deployed, and she has a one-year-old son.
Younger Sister Ella Lives With OP
OP’s younger sister Ella is 18 years old and lives with OP. She paid no rent and went to the nearby college. She had no job, and OP financially supported her since she was in school. OP’s parents lived 3 hours away, so it was a better fit.
OP Pleaded
OP worked five days a week, and her son was in daycare. OP got called to work on a Saturday, which was a weekend, and the daycares were closed. OP pleaded with her sister to watch over her son.
She Denied
OP’s sister refused and told her that it was her weekend off from school and she had a lot of studying to do. OP said she needed her to do that, and this is one of the very few requests she ever makes.
She told OP that she should find a babysitter online. OP noted that she needed to watch him, explaining that she cared for her and could do that one thing for her or go back and live with her parents.
What Did OP’s Sister Do?
She became distraught and told OP that she was rubbing what she did for her in her face and that she was an adult and OP’s son wasn’t her responsibility. However, she eventually agreed to watch him, and OP went to work.
OP Got Messages
While OP was on break, she checked her phone and had numerous texts from her parents saying that OP was abusing her power over her sister and that her son wasn’t her sister’s responsibility.
OP never asked her sister for help with the baby; she lived with her, so she could attend the school she wanted.
What Did Others Think?
User tagged her as not the jerk.
“Not wrong. She is living with you for free. This was an exceptional circumstance. Like if the plumbing needs to be fixed and you asked her to stay home to let the plumber in.” said one.
Sister Lives Rent-Free
“NTA. I don’t get the people saying OP is…..The sister lives there rent-free with no responsibilities besides school; they can live financially free because of OP. Asking her to watch the kid once is not outrageous given it was for OP to get to work, and she likely needs the money with the extra adult to feed and house,” another added.
She Can Do One Thing
“I love the people saying “but the agreement” to what? Not pay any bills and not contribute? The sister can do one thing in the home. It would be more if she was freeloading off me.”
OP Shouldn’t Even Have To Ask
“Not wrong, OP shouldn’t have even had to ask, her sister should’ve volunteered, she’s ungrateful considering all the OP does for her. It’s rich that she can remind OP that her son is not her responsibility, while treating OP like a parent from a responsibility perspective”
Source: Reddit.
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