People’s opinions and perspectives are influenced by their unique experiences and beliefs. While we may not always agree with others, it is important to approach differences respectfully and with an open mind in order to promote understanding and productive dialogue.
A user in a forum asked, “Am I wrong for wanting to limit my brother-in-law’s (BIL) access to my unborn daughter because of his dating choices?”
Backstory:
The Original Poster (OP) is about a 31-year-old woman who is pregnant with a girl. Her husband, who is 33, has a younger brother with who he is very close. However, OP recently expressed to her husband that she was uncomfortable with his brother spending much time with their daughter once she was born.
Concern Is With His Life Choices
The reason for this discomfort had nothing to do with her brother-in-law personally, as they are not close, and he seemed fine. Instead, the concern lay with his life choices.
What Does OP Say
According to OP, the 31-year-old younger brother was unmarried and had no desire to have children. He only dates for physical purposes and typically dates multiple women who are also extremely attractive.
Despite being highly intelligent, he had no interest in pursuing meaningful relationships.
What Happened When OP Questioned This
When OP questioned his choices a few years ago, he accused her of being “moralistic.” He claimed he always used protection and never misled the women he dated.
However, OP did not believe that, as she found that hard to believe that any woman with a ticking biological clock would willingly enter into a relationship with no future.
Additionally, she questioned why any woman would want to be with someone who may not even remember their name in a year.
What Happened Next?
OP mentioned this to her husband; however, he called OP a jerk. He said that limiting their daughter’s access to her uncle was ridiculous because he disagreed with his dating choices.
She asks, “Am I wrong?”
What’s The Problem
“It’s 2023. It’s okay for women to like physical intimacy outside of the quest to “land” a husband. As long as he’s being honest and safe, what’s the problem?”
You’re Judgmental
“You are a jerk and a prudish judgmental one at that! Grow up.”
Don’t Use Your Baby
“Jerk – The baby isn’t even born yet and you’re already using her as a pawn.”
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