Setting boundaries and expecting others to respect them is essential for healthy relationships. No matter how small or insignificant they may seem to others, your boundaries are valid and deserve to be honored. If someone violates your boundaries, you have every right to speak up and assert yourself.
The Original Poster (OP) took it to the forum, and asked “Am I wrong for kicking out my sister for not respecting my wife?”. We want to know from you.
BACKSTORY
OP’s wife doesn’t like sleeping in the bed with someone else.
She told OP that she trusts him with everything, but this is just something she was unable to do because of certain things she faced in her past. OP completely understands his wife and respects her boundaries.
WHAT HAPPENED NEXT?
OP’s sister asked if she could stay over at their house for the weekend because apparently she and her roommate got into an argument.
OP talked to his wife and both of them agreed on letting her stay over. OP also informed his sister about his wife’s room thing.
WHAT WAS HER ISSUE?
OP’s sister has always been a spoiled brat and it became even more obvious when she started complaining about her that the bed in the guest room was too lumpy.
She also refused to sleep in OP’s room because of his “man smell”.
WHAT HAPPENED NEXT?
OP told his sister that his wife’s room was off-limits and that she could either sleep in the guest room, his room, on the couch, or she could just find a motel.
His sister agreed and all of them went to sleep. Then OP suddenly woke up at 3 AM, and heard his wife and sister yelling at each other.
WHY WERE THEY ARGUING?
OP went to check and found his wife crying and his sister yelling!
After listening to it for a while, OP learned that his sister was trying to sleep in his wife’s room and was possibly trying to kick her out. Also, OP’s sister sleeps in her underwear, which made things even worse.
WHAT DID OP DO?
OP started yelling at his sister and told her to get out because they had set just one simple rule and she broke it.
THE BACKLASH
OP’s sister called his wife a crybaby in her last statement. After that, OP started getting text messages from his parents calling him a horrible brother for kicking out his sister like that.
His parents called his wife a crybaby as well and said that she needs to grow up.
THE WIFE’S TAKE ON IT
OP’s wife told him that his mother texted her and told her the same thing as his sister. She also told OP that he should have handled the situation differently.
Later, the same day, his wife came up to him and thanked him for taking her side and protecting her.
WHAT DO PEOPLE THINK?
“You did nothing wrong. You offered your sister THREE different beds to sleep on, and instead she chooses to literally sneak into the one room she’s been told isn’t up for grabs, in the middle of the night? I’m pretty sure she’s a character from a fairy tale.”, said one user.
“His sister was petty and didn’t like being told no so she was going to either punish OP’s wife or force the issue. As someone with trauma, if OP’s wife isn’t comfortable sleeping in the bed with her husband who she trusts, this intrusion was likely very triggering.
OP take care of your wife and you need to drill this into your sister’s head if she ever wants a relationship with you guys.”, said another user.
SOUNDS LIKE A POSSIBLE TRAUMA
“OP stated wife doesn’t like sleeping with anyone for what sounds like a possible trauma. His sister goes into her room in her underwear in the middle of the night like a creep.
I feel bad for OPs wife. OP did the right thing and is a good spouse. I just feel so bad the wife got clearly violated by the sister even if his sister didn’t mean to be creepy.”
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