Being honest is not all roses. A lot of times, the truth is nasty and can hurt the person in front of you. But that’s no excuse for lying, too!
An internet user asked, “Am I a jerk for asking my sister what the hell she expected to happen at her bachelorette party?”.
We need to hear your take!
Backstory
For some reason, the Original Poster’s (OP’s) (F32) sister (23) and her fiance (25) decided that the very best way to celebrate before getting married was to have a joint bachelor/bachelorette party. At strip clubs.
How Did The Bachelorette Party Go?
They also hired a bus limo for the evening.
The aftermath was, thus far, three breakups, four people dropping out of the wedding party, one impending divorce, and one arrest. The cleaning bill for the limo was more than the original rental fee also.
What Happened The Other Day?
OP’s sister was crying to their mom at dinner the other day and OP snorted.
“I tried not to, I honestly did. I was trying my best to just keep my mouth shut,” says OP.
OP’s Explanation To Her Sister
OP’s sister asked her what was so funny. OP said that she wasn’t sure what she expected to happen getting a group of people drunk, using illicit substances, and getting exotic dancers.
The Final Fuss
OP’s sister said that OP was a jerk for judging her and her friends. OP said she wasn’t judging, just that literally anyone could have seen that outcome.
“My mom told me to apologize because my sister is having to replace most of her wedding party on the fly. I did. But I still think I’m right. Am I a jerk?”, asks OP.
It Was Obviously A Bad Idea
“Not the jerk. The collateral damage from this party shows just how bad of an idea this was. Sure, many people/groups can go to strip clubs, drink, have fun and not end up arrested, divorcing, breaking up and dropping out of the wedding; this group obviously were not able to do so, and I find it very difficult to believe this wasn’t evident beforehand.
Ostensibly they’ve all partied together before and knew what chaos could ensue. That you snorted at their naivete doesn’t make you the jerk.
Your mother telling you to apologize because your sister is having to replace most of her wedding party shows me just exactly where your sister gets it from.”
The Party Itself Was Not The Issue
“It’s not the party that’s the issue – it was her friends who were unable to behave in a manner appropriate for the continuity of their relationships. These kinds of parties can be fun and go well if people can have fun without getting messy. You’re the jerk.”
People Tend To Get Annoyed
“Not the jerk. People tend to get annoyed when someone delivers the truth they know but refuse to acknowledge out loud.”
This Is Pretty Hilarious Actually
“Not the jerk and this is pretty hilarious actually. Now I want the deets haha!
Looks like the bride and groom made it through the trial by…strip club and so just tell your sister that 10 years from now she and her husband will be able to laugh about this, too. What a story!”
Sometimes, The Truth Hurts
“Not the jerk because your laugh was involuntary, and she probably would have persisted until you told her, and if you made up some stupid lie that could have hurt her even more.
Not a good scenario but to me, it sounds like you did the best with what you had to work with, and you apologized afterwards. Sometimes the truth hurts, but lies are never the answer.”
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