Christmas is a time for family and loved ones to come together, exchange gifts, and create memories. But what if you receive a gift that you find suggestive?
A user took to the forum and asked, “Am I wrong for buying my wife a Roomba for Christmas?”
Backstory
The Original Poster (OP) and his wife have two children, a 15-year-old daughter, and an 11-year-old son. Since the birth of their second child, OP’s wife has been a stay-at-home mom.
The OP, who is 46 years old, works full-time and earns a six-figure salary. Their job is highly stressful and requires frequent travel, with most nights spent sleeping in hotels.
What Happened Next?
On average, OP only gets to see his family every second weekend. Despite their heavy workload, OP is content to work hard to provide a comfortable life for his family.
OP Decided To Buy Roomba
Last year, OP decided to buy his wife a Roomba for Christmas. Since his wife tended to be the one who vacuumed the house, OP presumed that his wife would appreciate that gift as it would free her from this chore.
What Happened Next?
As she unpacked the present, she was heavily offended and did not hesitate to show it, which made the whole situation quite uncomfortable as OP’s parents and other family members were also present.
She argued that the gift should not be a present directed at her but at the whole family, as it is the entire family’s responsibility to clean up the house.
What Did OP Think
Since OP was working and he was the sole source of income in the family, and she was a stay at home mother, OP thought it was apparent that she should take on responsibilities such as taking care of the kids and maintaining the house. The gift was intended to somewhat relieve her of that burden.
What Does OP Say
OP said, personally, he would have loved to have received a Christmas gift that would have somehow made it possible for him to spend less time working. As cheesy as it sounds, OP thought that time was one of the most precious gifts and that Roomba would have definitely bought some time for her – time that she could use to do whatever she pleased instead of vacuuming.
OP Asked
OP asked his wife numerous times before Christmas last year what she would have liked to receive and she repeatedly told him that she does not want anything. OP was left to guess and chose the most practical gift that he was certain she could be able to make use of.
You Are A Jerk
“You are wrong: that’s a gift for the household and not her. It shows you primarily regard her as a housekeeper and not a partner. What interests does she have that are not about serving you and the family?”
She Feels Offended
“OP, had you realized it offended her and apologized instead of defending it I feel like it would have been more of a NAH.
Regardless of whether you personally would have enjoyed the gift or not, she didn’t like it and told you it offended her. I see how it comes off to her that you think of her as the housekeeper and not your wife, however, you could have redeemed yourself and apologized. You didn’t which further implied the original thought of her being just a housekeeper.”
This Should Not Be A Christmas Gift
“This exactly. Giving your wife a roomba should not be tied with a Christmas present. Get a Roomba any other time of the year simply because some of the burdens of running an entire household 300 days a year as a single parent should be taken care of as a household convenience.
A Roomba as a present is a pretty bad, especially considering the circumstances. You are clearly out of touch with what she’s probably going through.”
What Happens Now
Unfortunately, one year later, this often gets brought up during arguments, often coupled with her crying. OP asks, “Am I wrong in this situation?”
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