It’s okay to have rules for your events, but don’t expect everyone to agree with them. If someone decides not to attend because of your rules, don’t be mad at them.
The Original Poster (OP) took it to the forum, and asked “Am I wrong for not attending my brother’s child-free wedding because I don’t want to get a sitter?”. We want to know from you.
BACKSTORY
OP and her family just found out over the weekend that OP’s brother is going to get married to his fiance within two weeks.
WHAT DOES OP THINK OF HER BROTHER’S FIANCE?
Although OP and her brother’s fiance don’t interact much, OP thinks she is a nice person and also makes her brother really happy.
THE WEDDING VENUE
The wedding is going to take place at the bride’s father’s estate and the reception is going to be held there as well. The venue is almost 3 hours away from OP’s place.
CHILD-FREE WEDDING
OP’s brother and his fiance let OP know recently that the wedding is going to be child-free.
OP’S DECISION
Although it was a tough decision for her to take, OP decided not to attend her brother’s wedding.
WHY NOT?
OP has a 2 year old daughter who has been recently diagnosed with Epilepsy. Having dealt with Epilepsy herself most of her life, OP knows how much worse it can get.
For this reason, OP didn’t want to get a sitter and leave her daughter for so long.
OP LET HER BROTHER KNOW
OP called her brother up and let him know about her decision of not attending his wedding. He got upset and told OP that she was deliberately punishing him for having a child-free wedding.
HE’S ENTITLED
OP’s brother also told her that he’s entitled to set whatever rules he wants for his wedding. OP told him that just like how it is okay for her brother to set rules, it’s equally okay if she decides to put her child first.
WHAT HAPPENED NEXT?
The conversation eventually got heated up, and the brother ended up saying “Sorry, but the world doesn’t revolve around your kid”.
Although her parents understand her situation, OP’s brother and her fiance are both mad at her. Now OP wants to know if it was right for her to refuse to go to her brother’s wedding.
WHAT DO PEOPLE THINK?
“Tell your brother the world doesn’t revolve around his shot-gun wedding.”, said one user.
This Is Insane
“When did this insane trend of child-free people having child-free weddings and telling parents what to ‘do with their kids’ begin? It’s so pervasive!”, said another user.
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