Social media is a great way to stay connected with friends and family, but it’s important to remember that not everything you see on social media is real. It’s easy to compare yourself to others and feel like you’re not good enough, but it’s important to remember that everyone is on their own journey.
A user approached the forum and asked, “Am I wrong for telling my sister-in-law to grow and stop copying everything from Tiktok?”
The Original Poster (OP) is a 42-year-old female with a 35-year-old sister-in-law who is easily influenced, which often embarrasses OP.
She Is Influenced By TikTok
Recently, the sister-in-law had been heavily influenced by TikTok. She had adopted a five-step skincare routine and had spent significant money on questionable products. She spent hours following makeup tutorials and used to wake up at 5 am to follow a workout plan from an account she found on the app.
What Else Happened
Her cooking was also primarily based on recipes she found on TikTok, and she frequently visited restaurants she discovered on the platform.
OP felt that her sister-in-law needed to gain more originality and that she relied too heavily on the app, which she believed was primarily designed for teenagers.
What Happened Next?
With Easter approaching, the sister-in-law asked OP to bring a butter board recipe she had seen on TikTok. OP thought the recipe sounded ridiculous and confronted her about her behavior.
OP Expresses Embarrassment
OP expressed embarrassment over the sister-in-law’s teenage-like behavior and explained that no skincare and early morning workouts could stop the aging process. OP advised her sister-in-law that it was time to accept her age and stop wasting money on unnecessary products.
OP Raised Concerns
OP also raised concerns about the sister-in-law’s life passing her by, that she was married and childless at 35. OP worried that the sister-in-law might regret not having children and spending too much time and money on her appearance.
What Did SIL Say?
In response to OP’s comments, the sister-in-law refused to attend Easter and stated that she would not give up on herself just because OP had.
OP felt her sister-in-law’s remark was rude and uncalled for. Mainly because OP had two children to care for and little time to worry about wrinkles or the perfect outfit. The sister-in-law ended the conversation by hanging up.
What Happened Next?
Following the argument with her sister-in-law, OP’s in-laws became upset and decided to host Easter at their house. The sister-in-law felt uncomfortable attending Easter at OP’s house and would instead be preparing her butter board for the gathering.
Such A Jerk
“Suprise women can be happy an have fulfilling lives without kids. Why are you so concerned about her uterus and physical life tell me?
SIL sounds like she is living her best life. Sounds like you are damn jealous of her. I would like to be friends with SIL, she sounds like fun.”
You Sound Jealous
“Yeah YTA how is her doing any of those things impacting YOUR life. You sound bitter and jealous.”
Oh my god
“YTA in so many ways. You hate that she is being productive and doing healthy things because it came from Tiktok. Which, to you, is somehow an age-restricted platform? Even though 45% of social media users in her age group use Tiktok? But somehow, for her specifically, it is wrong?
You think a morning workout routine is a bad thing? As in, the thing that every doctor and medical professional would be happy she is doing?
You think a single woman in her mid-30s shouldn’t be taking care of her skin? You say, “I have two kids to take care of I don’t have time to worry about wrinkles or if my outfit is perfect,” but if she has the time why do you think she needs to be like you?
She hears about restaurants and goes to them, like everyone who has ever read a restaurant review from a newspaper, but it’s bad because it came from a different source?
She’s found a source for recipes she likes, and that’s somehow bad?
You sound like an angry, bitter, jealous person. Leave her alone. I’m glad your family is shunning you, maybe you’ll learn something, though it seems obvious you won’t.”
What Do You Think
While OP’s husband agreed that his sister needed to grow up, he believed that OP should apologize and keep the peace to ensure a pleasant Easter celebration. On the other hand, OP believed that she was looking out for her sister-in-law’s best interests by encouraging her to accept her age and move on from her teenage-like behavior.
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