It’s natural to want the support of loved ones during difficult times. However, it’s also important to remember that not everyone is available all the time.
The Original Poster (OP) took it to the forum, and asked “Am I wrong for leaving my sister in the hospital while she had a stillbirth because I had to do my MCAT?”. We want to know from you.
BACKSTORY
OP is 22 and her older sister, Mia, is 28. They have been really close to each other until recently.
HIGH RISK PREGNANCY
Mia had a high risk pregnancy, placenta previa and some other issues. She eventually had to get a c-section a week earlier than expected, but the baby was stillborn, which was terrible.
OP HAD HER MCAT
OP had her MCAT the day after Mia’s delivery date. Mia requested OP earlier to stay with her.
OP LEFT
Before Mia went in for the surgery, OP saw her screaming and crying. Eventually OP ended up leaving as she had her exam early morning on the next day.
OP CAME BACK
After the exam got over, OP went back to the hospital. Although OP heard the news of the stillbirth before her exam, she didn’t go then.
MIA IS ANGRY
After a few days since the ill-fated day, Mia was still upset with OP. She was angry at OP for ditching her during the worst time of her life.
OP APOLOGIZED
OP said sorry and also explained that she left only because she had to do her MCAT.
MIA LOST IT
Mia completely went off at OP, saying she could have just done it another day. OP was also accused of prioritizing an exam over Mia and her baby’s life. Mia even told her that she deserved to fail in the exam.
WHAT HAPPENED NEXT?
Mia called OP selfish. Her family members also thought that OP did something awful. The only person who understood OP’s side is her mother, but even she asked her to stay quiet because Mia was going through a traumatic phase in her life.
Now OP wants to know if what she did is wrong.
WHAT DO PEOPLE THINK?
“You can’t even reschedule the MCAT within 8 days of your exam. Prior to the 8 days they still charge a substantial fee to reschedule.
As awful as this unplanned event was, asking you to shell out hundreds and put your plans on hold isn’t exactly fair either. And that’s coming from an L&D nurse. I wouldn’t have expected you to miss your exam.”, said one user.
DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY
“The grief and the physical and hormonal effects must be awful for Sister. It might be helpful for OP to think of Sister as sort of temporarily insane due to circumstances rather than internalize Sister’s outrage and take it personally.”, said another user.
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