The decision to have children is a personal one, not an obligation. Not everyone is suited for parenthood, and those who choose not to have children have valid reasons and perspectives.
A user asked the forum, “For those that don’t want any kids in the future, why?”. Here are the top responses.
IT IS A HUGE RESPONSIBILITY
“It’s a huge responsibility. I’m not ready to be responsible for anyone else.”
I COULD NEVER RELAX AGAIN
“I don’t want to worry about a kid for the rest of my life. I could never truly relax again. I just don’t feel like being a parent and watching over a child.”
NOT INTERESTED IN STRESS
“Personally not interested in the stress, responsibility, and dedication it takes to look after babies, toddlers, and kids.
If I ever do have kids, I’ll look after them, but right now, and probably for a long time, I don’t see myself wanting to be around kids when coming home after a long day and then dealing with a screaming baby (ofcourse not all the time) which needs attention the entire time I’m home.”
I DON’T THINK I WOULD BE A GOOD MOTHER
“1). I spent pretty much my entire childhood helping to raise my seven younger siblings. I’m, frankly, all mothered out.
2). I don’t think I’d be a good mother and in order to find out if I am wrong, I have to open Pandora’s Box. If I open the box and am wrong, a child suffers for my choice.
3). I really, really, really don’t want to have children. Nor do I feel that the current world I live in and the future are ones I want to bring children into.”
I NEVER WANTED IT
“Just not something I have ever wanted. Believe it or not, there are just some people out there who don’t have a parental instinct.”
I LIKE PEACE, QUIETNESS, AND CLEANLINESS
“Because I like peace, quiet, cleanliness, free time, and last but not least. Money.”
I DON’T WANT TO GIVE UP ON MY HOBBIES
“Many reasons.
- I don’t have a partner.
- I don’t make enough money to support them in a way I think they’d deserve
- My country is divided and seems to be making more terrible decisions that will directly impact my children’s future.
- I don’t want them.
- I don’t want to give up my hobbies and free time to be a parent.
- The world already has a ton of people.
I HAVE NO MATERNAL INSTINCT
“I have no maternal instinct toward kids. Nothing makes me want to hold a baby or play with a toddler. I don’t find a child laughing or a baby cooing adorable.
I also have anger issues and refuse to put a kid through what my dad put me through. I got to break the cycle somewhere.”
KIDS ARE ANNOYING
“Kids are annoying. I don’t have the patience. I also have lots of issues. I would probably snap and treat them badly in some way, unfortunately. I’m better off without kids.”
I DON’T WANT TO PASS ON MY TERRIBLE GENETICS
“I don’t want to pass on my terrible genetics and generational trauma to anyone else.”
THEY ARE REALLY EXPENSIVE
“They’re really expensive and needy, and I don’t understand their math homework. I’m not really sure how to break the news to them, though.”
I AM TOO SELFISH
“I’m too selfish. I wanna be able to do what I want when I want, and I don’t wanna worry about how that’s gonna affect a kid. If I wanna spend all day laying on the beach, we can do that.”
I STRUGGLE WITH ANXIETY
“I struggle with anxiety, especially in the setting of higher stress environments and lack of sleep. I struggled a ton with adjusting when I got my puppy, and that was only for 2-3 months. I can’t imagine how I’d be a good parent to someone who is dependent on me for a few years.”
I AM BROKE
“I’m broke. Also, working all the time and leaving a baby alone at home is a major NO.”
NOT A KIDS PERSON
“I’m not a kid. I don’t want to live with other people under one roof, especially not unreasonable, ungrateful, and dependent people. I finally hit the sweet spot of financial stability, work-life balance, free time, and energy. Why ruin that?”
I just straight-up hate kids. This has been a thing for me since I was a kid, and nothing has changed my mind decades later.”
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