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A user asked the forum, “What’s making you not want to have children?”. Let’s look at the top responses.
GOING TO ADOPT
“There are plenty of kids out there that need a home. I’m adopted myself, so if anything, I’m going to adopt.”
AFRAID OF DELIVERY
“I’m really afraid of delivery (and a little bit of pregnancy). My mom died while giving birth two weeks after my 5th birthday. My brother didn’t survive either.
I don’t know if it’s related or not, but I don’t like babies. I don’t know how to understand them and find them pretty ugly.
I’m always flabbergasted by the reaction of most people with babies. I’m fine with older kids; once they speak (even badly) I’m very fond of them, but early stages are not for me.”
FREEDOM
“Freedom! No judgment; I’m sure people who have kids are very happy and that it’s an awesome experience, but I couldn’t personally do it. I like being able to do what I want whenever. It’s really nice not having kids.”
MONEY AND THE ENVIRONMENT ARE A CONCERN
“Honestly, I always thought I would have kids but it is not something I want to do in this economy and this environmental catastrophe waiting to happen. So to put it simply:
- Money
- Earth”
GOT A VASECTOMY
“They’re expensive. I don’t have time for them. I can’t handle the responsibility of having my life revolve around one. I like my sleep. I can’t find a woman I would trust to help me raise one
My parents were absolute garbage, that didn’t teach me anything valuable, so I don’t know what a GOOD parent looks like.
I can barely afford to live myself. I got a vasectomy.”
DIDN’T WANT TO SUBJECT A CHILD TO STRUGGLES
“Seeing people I know have kids and how hard it is to be a good parent. They struggle emotionally and financially, and I just don’t want to subject a kid to having a life of that. Plus, my parents were not so good, so I didn’t have a good example of how to parent well.”
KIDS ARE LOUD AND ANNOYING
“Kids are loud, annoying, expensive, and gross. I like my peace and enjoy having alone time. I’m also homophobic and wouldn’t want to mess up my body / live with issues like incontinence for the rest of my life from being pregnant and giving birth.”
IT’S A BURDEN
“I don’t want the burden of raising children.”
FEAR
“The fear of not being able to take care of them or give them a happy life. I want to provide them with the best upbringing, and if I fail at that, I’ll be devastated. I also have a fear that their future dad will leave me or die early on, and I’d have to take care of them on my own.”
MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES
“I have severe mental health issues. It would be unfair to bring a child to this world I couldn’t take care of.”
SELFISH
“I’m far too selfish to have children. I truly enjoy doing whatever I want, whenever I want. The amount of responsibility to raise a child and do it right is astronomical, and I’m simply not willing to give up everything I enjoy to pass on my bad genetics.
Far too many people are already having children that they can’t properly love and care for. The world doesn’t need more of them.”
DON’T WANT TO LIVE FOR OTHERS
“Wanting to live life for me and not for others.”
FEAR OF BIRTH DEFECTS
“I am a forty-year-old woman, and the possibility of birth defects scares me.”
CAREER
“Take up SO much of your time. Sorry, but my career is more important.”
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