The journey of dating and relationships unveils a myriad of life lessons, both positive and negative. Embracing these experiences with an open mind and learning from them is crucial for personal growth and navigating the intricate world of connections.
A user asked the forum, “What is the hardest lesson a woman has ever taught you?”. Here are the top responses.
SHE WILL MAKE TIME FOR YOU
“If she wants to hang out with you, she will make time for you.”
DON’T GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE LONELY
“Don’t get into a relationship just because you’re lonely. You quickly learn that being alone is way better than being with someone who annoys the hell out of you.”
MY MOTHER WAS FLAWED
“My wife taught me that my mother was flawed. I was 39. I completely reevaluated my teen and college years. My first marriage. Most of my life.
She didn’t tell me she taught me; she showed me that I was neglected by someone who I thought was incapable of this.”
SHE IS NOT WHO YOU WANT TO BE
“That she is who she is and not who you want her to be.”
PARENTS DON’T HAVE YOUR BEST INTEREST AT HEART
“Your parents do not always know best or have your best interests at heart.”
FEELINGS FOR SOMEONE FADE EVENTUALLY
“How you perceive her when you’re infatuated is nothing but an internal projection onto her. It’s what your mind wants her to be, not who she really is.
“Feelings” for someone fade eventually and are just an emotional high. It’s an illusion your mind creates.
Edit: people much wiser than me say love is built, not found.”
EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE EVERYTHING SHE WANTS, SHE MIGHT NOT LIKE YOU
“That even if you are everything she wants in a relationship, she still might say she doesn’t like you. Her words were, “You are everything I want in a boyfriend, but I just don’t want to date you.” That hurt so much more than I could have guessed.”
MOVE ON
“No matter how hard you try, some things just don’t work out. Dust yourself off and move on.”
SHE WILL TAKE TO YOU IF SHE PRIORITIZE IT
“If she REALLY wants to talk to you, she will reply to your call/text within a reasonable time frame. Obviously, there are exceptions, and things happen, but someone who’s interested won’t leave you hanging. She wouldn’t consistently take forever to get back to you.”
IT ISN’T REAL
“Unconditional love ain’t real.”
I AM BETTER OFF SINGLE
“That I am better off single. There are great women out there, but I never seem to meet them, or they are already taken. Just a few in the past that I met taught me that I am better off staying single.”
YOU CAN’T KEEP THEM 100% HAPPY
“You will never be able to keep them 100% happy, so don’t bother trying. Instead, aim for a more sustainable 90%.
For example, they like it when you have the kind of body you get from lifting weights, but they complain when you go to the gym instead of spending time with them.
They would like it if you get promoted and make more money, but they hate it if to get there, you have to work late or go on business trips.
They will not tell you which restaurant they want to go out to but will complain about everyone you choose that’s not the one they actually have in mind.
They will promise you to do something without actually meaning it. They will not take any steps to actually progress towards doing it. If you call them out, they will gaslight you by misremembering the past. When you start keeping a diary to actually prove it, they will get mad at you for keeping a diary (because now they can’t lie anymore).”
SHE WILL NOT HESITATE TO JUSTIFY TREATING YOU BAD
“No matter how much she loves you, she will not hesitate to justify treating you badly during a breakup because that’s what you deserve because of whatever delusional reason she has to justify.”
THEY SHARE EVERYTHING WITH THEIR FRIENDS
“They talk a lot about almost everything to their friends. So, be careful with what you’re disclosing. It may paint you in a good light or a terrible one.”
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