One of the compromises you’ve to make while living in close proximity to your neighbors is to ignore the annoying noises coming from the other side of the wall.
But what if it’s an everyday thing and one day, it makes you wake up in the middle of the night?
A netizen recently asked, “Am I a jerk for telling my neighbors to get a hotel if they want to ‘do stuff’ every night?”. We need to know your take on the matter.
Backstory
The Original Poster (OP) (43M) has 6 children. 4 daughters and 2 sons, ages ranging from 16 to 2. All his daughters share a room and his sons share a room, (OP is aware that’s a bit intense but they’re both quite big rooms, and they all enjoy sharing a room).
The New Neighbors
Their house is connected to the next door and the neighbor’s bedroom is on the same wall as both OP’s kids’ rooms.
OP says, “Our new neighbors moved in about 4 months ago and not to be TMI but I swear they’re always doing something. I’m not one to be confrontational so I tried to just ignore it, I can sleep through the night fine.”
What Happened A Few Days Ago?
But a few days ago, OP’s daughter (female 5) came into his room at 2 am crying, saying she thinks the neighbors are fighting with each other and that they were screaming.
Of course, OP was concerned and told her daughter to stay in his room. OP went into hers and low and behold they were screaming. But not from fighting. At this point, OP was irritated.
OP says, “If they want to do it every day that’s their choice but if they’re waking my children up at 2 am I think I have the right to say something.”
The Next Day
The next day, OP went over to their house and basically told the husband that “If he’s that h0rny he can get a motel or do it in the basement.”
He got mad and embarrassed. He told OP it was none of his business what they did in bed and then slammed the door in OP’s face.
OP’s Thoughts
“I feel like I may have been in the wrong but they’re also doing it, 6 feet away from 6 sleeping children with only a thin wall in between.”, says OP.
Now. OP wants to know if he is the jerk.
It’s Seriously None Of Your Business
“You’re the jerk. They got a room, and they pay for it, just like you do. They fill their house with noisy intimacy, and you fill yours with the result of noisy intimacy.
I would’ve slammed the door in your face, too.”
Go File A Noise Complaint
“All these ‘you’re the jerk’ crack me up. Yes, these people are free to have intimacy in their homes, no argument. What they are not allowed to do is be so loud it disturbs neighbors, especially after 10 pm – when where many places have ordinances on noise.
Do they rent or own? If renting, start complaining to the landlord. Start calling the police and file a noise complaint. Not the jerk.”
Everyone’s A Jerk Here
“Everyone’s a jerk here. The way you went about it wasn’t the smoothest, yeah. Probably should’ve had a script or something.
But no. ‘They paid for the house, they can be loud, it’s just romance.’ Just no, dudes.
The first few times I had intimacy, yeah it was loud. But then, hey! I live in an apartment with others who can hear, so guess what? We matured and lowered our voices out of common courtesy for our neighbors!
It’s not ‘stifling intimacy or being ‘prudish’. Literally, you can have an amazing love life without breaking out a megaphone and yelling ‘I am currently being railed world!’ “
What You Did Was Inappropriate
“This situation is awful but you have no right to go over there and ask them to stop, that’s completely inappropriate.
This is just one of the problems of living in close proximity to other people, and unless you are willing to move to a more secluded area, is something you will just have to deal with.
Do your 6 kids ever fight, scream, yell? I am sure your neighbors hear you too.
In the meantime, invest in some noise machines to help mitigate the sounds. You can also look into soundproofing the rooms, they sell heavy curtains and things to help reduce sound.”
Considerate People Don’t Do That
“Likely an unpopular opinion here, but part of living anywhere with shared walls is not being disruptive to the point of being an annoying neighbor every single day. Apartment, town home, etc.
I would feel the same way if you lived in a single-family home and the people in the home next door left their windows open and screamed their brains out while getting down. considerate people just don’t do this.”
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