Pregnancy is a beautiful journey, but it’s also a roller coaster of physical, emotional, and hormonal changes.A user asked the forum, Am I a jerk for not preparing my pregnant wife’s food?
BACK STORY
The original poster’s (OP) wife is five months pregnant and has started to feel hungry a lot. She was recovering from vomiting constantly, and now it was just once a week or two.
HE DOES ALL THE HOUSEHOLD CHORES
OP and his wife work from home. He tries to do most household chores like cooking, dishes, laundry, cleaning, breakfast, lunch, dinner, etc.
He says that it’s a small apartment and has no kids, so it’s not much work.
HE SERVED BREAKFAST TO HER
And they typically just have milk and bread for breakfast, which he brought to her in bed.
She helps with cooking whenever she is feeling good, and lately, she has started to cook more than him; otherwise, he often cooks dinner with her assistance.
He says that they save dinner for lunch the next day. He also said that it went well most of the time.
HIS WIFE KEPT COMPLAINING
The problem was that his wife kept complaining that she was hungry and he hadn’t fed her.
OP says he often offers snacks like bananas, fruits, and nuts, but his wife says she is looking for some real food because she is really hungry.
SHE HAS NO IDEA WHAT SHE WANTS TO EAT
When he asks her what she wants him to make, she often doesn’t have an answer and tells him that she doesn’t know but is hungry.
OP says If he offers to make something, like soup or boiled potatoes, she shoots it down for one reason or the other, saying it’s carb and not good; it was too light, and she was too hungry, etc.
OP WAS FRUSTRATED
This frustrated OP so much, and that day, she agreed to a serving of watermelon, which he cut and served.
While cutting it, OP asked her to tell him what she wanted to eat because she would start complaining that she was hungry and he couldn’t immediately have something ready to eat because it takes preparation.
She said she was good for a while and didn’t entertain my question.
SHE WAS HUNGRY AGAIN
OP says that when he visited her room an hour or so after work, she started pouting that she was hungry, and he didn’t feed her anything since lunch throughout that day.
This made him a bit angry because he did feed her the melon and some dry snacks.
She said that it just wasn’t proper food.
SHE WAS EXPECTING TOO MUCH
Moreover, OP had asked her what to eat exactly for this reason, and she had refused to answer then.
He told her she was expecting too much from him.
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY OF WHAT YOU WANT
He asked her that she should at least take responsibility for figuring out what to eat and let him know in advance.
OP says that she felt like he was invalidating her, and then she said she wouldn’t tell him anything. He got annoyed and left the room.
He wants to know if he is a jerk
SHE IS NOT DISABLED
“You ‘didn’t feed her’? Is she bedridden? If not, why can’t she feed herself? Pregnancy does not equal disabled.”
SHE NEEDS CARBS TOO
“Yeah, the carbs comment is wild – she needs all types of nutrients, and yes – that means carbs too. Personally, my go-to was peanut butter sandwiches with banana.”
YOU ARE NOT HER SERVANT
“Unless she’s experiencing complications or issues with the pregnancy, this is not an excuse. I worked full-time in an office, having to smell other people’s food up to a week before my son was born.
My partner had left me, so the only person responsible for ensuring I was fed was me, myself, and I. Somehow, I managed (because I had two working legs and a brain).
Your wife is milking this to the nth degree. Pouting, being whiny, and complaining. You are not her servant.”
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