A user asked, What’s the fastest way to relax a man when upset? Here are the tips directly from men.
LEAVE ME ALONE
“For me? Leave me alone.”
“I guess if you want your man to cool down, leave them alone for a bit.”
STOP ASKING WHAT IS WRONG
“Stop asking me “What’s wrong”, etc….gimme 24 hours.”
STOP BLAMING
“I’ll tell you the quickest way to aggravate it – Telling him anything that implies that he is wrong to be upset.”
“If you respond to someone’s aggravation with ” You’re overreacting!” Or? ” You’re being emotional” is a great way to distract them from the problem… By becoming the problem.”
HUG IF THE PROBLEM ISN’T YOU
“If it’s not at you: hug.”
“I remember I saw a post written by a man who said his wife hugged him the second he got upset and started raising his voice. And it immediately calmed him down.”
APOLOGIZE
“If it’s at you and you’re in the wrong: apologize.”
STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT IT
“If it’s at you and he’s in the wrong (really, not just because you don’t like something): let him think about it but don’t be mean about it.”
SAY I AM THERE FOR YOU
“I’m here for you. Just talk to me when you’re ready.”
MAKE THEM FEEL SAFE
“Catch-all: ask “What do you need right now to feel safe, and what’s the best solution? I’m here to help and make things better.”
Otherwise, you can get to learn him and see if these help but everyone is different.”
LISTEN
“If he does want to talk about it, listen. I mean actually LISTEN. Take the time to not only give him the space to feel safe and comfortable with opening up, but make sure you’re looking to understand his perspective. If you see a solution, offer it. If you don’t understand something he’s talking about say so.
Anything he divulges to you, should be taken to the grave. Always assume anything he’s not already openly discussing, he planned on taking with him to the grave. That doesn’t mean talk to your Mom, Sister, GFs about it. You never know who will truly respect keeping his secrets. You absolutely should if you love him.”
FAVORITE MEAL
“Favourite meal, beer, space.”
PLAY VIDEO GAMES
“If he plays videos games try logging onto his most recent game played and finishing it for him, even if you cant it’ll show him that you care and he’ll definitely see that you made an effort.”
USE LOGIC
“If he is a sensible, rational man then use logic. If he is an emotional person then don’t waste your time because he will never relax.”
REASSURANCE
“REASSURANCE! MY man was feeling low on confidence and a bit lonely a few weeks ago. I reassured him that he’s THE MOST AMAZING person I’ve ever seen, told him that his situation was going to come to an end sooner than later, and that I’m always gonna be there for him if he ever wants to vent or just to comfort him whenever he needs it. it made him cheerful!”
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