Calling people names over something that’s not your concern and has been done and dusted in the past is beyond insane!
An internet user asked, “Am I a jerk for refusing to go to my son’s Halloween party since he won’t invite his sister since she cheated?”. Here’s the whole story for you to conclude!
BACKSTORY
The Original Poster (OP) will host the event herself, and she will do that for a while. In their family, they rotate who hosts the family event.
THE HALLOWEEN PARTY
OP’s son is having this Halloween party, and everyone is invited but his sister. She (Amy) cheated on her long-distance boyfriend about four months ago.
“I don’t approve of what she did; it was stupid of her,” says OP.
HE HATES CHEATERS
Now OP’s son has taken her cheating personally, exceptionally personally. OP had to tell him to shut up about it multiple times.
WHAT HAPPENED TODAY?
Today, OP was talking with her daughter, and it turned out that she didn’t know when the party was. OP called her son, and he told OP she wasn’t invited.
“I told him I will not be going if everyone in the family is invited besides her,” says OP.
AN ARGUMENT BROKE OUT
This is when the argument broke out. OP’s son called OP some creative names for defending “the cheater of the family.” OP hung up after that.
WHAT NEXT?
OP told her husband what happened, and he is also not going now. OP’s son is annoyed, and OP is getting messages for not going to the party. Is OP a jerk?
SOME MORE CONTEXT
OP later edited the post and added the following information:
“My son is 28, and my daughter is 23. I have talked to him about it, and he can’t ‘stand cheaters.’ He has never been cheated on, from my knowledge. My daughter cheated, apologized to her ex, and then broke up. She didn’t hide it. My son’s attitude about this makes me think this will be a problem with him for a long time.”
NOT THE JERK
“Not the jerk. Your daughter’s cheating was between her and her partner at the time. It sounds like she apologized, and they broke up.
Unless her partner was a good friend of your son, then he had no skin in the game. It shouldn’t be impacting his relationship with his sister anymore.”
IS HE A CHEATER HIMSELF?
“I wonder if he’s reacting so severely because he’s a cheater too. Most of the hypocrites I know who preach how wrong cheating is are being unfaithful themselves.
Your son can feel how he feels, but if this is a rotated family event, he doesn’t get a right not to invite her when it’s his turn. Not the jerk.”
USING FOUL LANGUAGE IS NOT OKAY
“Not the jerk. The use of foul language against your daughter is honestly a little concerning. I understand not forgiving and not wanting her, but the language would have made me not wanna go either.”
HE DOESN’T GET TO DICTATE
“Not the jerk. It is a family event with a tradition of rotating between hosts. He does not have to invite someone he doesn’t want in his home, but he also doesn’t get to dictate who is allowed to attend a family event. Plus, he should not be calling you any names.”
SON IS TAKING IT TOO FAR
“Not the jerk. I think cheating is awful, too, and I don’t trust anyone who cheats, but I don’t get why you’d be the jerk for not going. That’s your option. Also, your son is taking it too far.”
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