What happens when you label a seemingly inappropriate conversation as playful small talk, especially if you’re married and the other person cracks a “joke” with a double meaning in front of your spouse?
What Happened
It’s natural for your spouse to lose their calm, isn’t it? Well, today, we have an incident for you along the same lines.
A netizen recently asked, Am I a jerk for telling my wife to chill out over a joke my coworker made? We want you to break it to him!
Backstory
OP was driving when his coworker gave him a call. His wife was in the car as well. She called him to ask where he spayed their cats because she got a stray cat and thinks she might be in heat.
OP Told Her Where To Go
OP told her where to go. Then she joked saying she was in heat too and needed to be fixed. (Referring to menopause, because she told OP she has it) Which, according to OP, was a little weird to say but a joke nonetheless.
What Happened After The Call?
After the call, OP’s wife asked him what was that all about and to not be reciprocating her flirting. He laughed and told her to chill out; it was a joke.
What Does Op Say
OP says, “She’s now mad at me, and we got home, and she asked me more questions about this coworker; To which I refused to talk further because she was making accusations out of nothing. Am I a jerk for this?”
Let’s see what others think.
Don’t You See What Went Wrong Here?
“Do you not see what you did wrong here? Your co-worker said something that you, out of the gate, called “a little weird.”
Your Wife Didn’t Like It
Your wife didn’t like it – and rather than saying, “Yeah, right? I thought it was weird too! She talks a lot about being in menopause, I think she meant that” you defend your co-worker against your wife and tell your wife to control her emotions! Turn your guns around! You’re defending the wrong beachhead.”
Your Coworker Is Hitting On You
“That was a *wildly* inappropriate conversation between co-workers, I don’t care how jovial your workplace is. Your co-worker is hitting on you hard and in front of your wife. Your wife is right to be suspicious and furious.” Said one.
“Yeah, this was not a joke about menopause. I can’t tell if OP is trying to gaslight us, along with his wife, or if he’s that ignorant. Either way, you’re the jerk, OP.” Another added.
You Dismissed Your Wife’s Feelings Like Anything!
“Your wife 100% now thinks you are cheating on her, and instead of calming her down and validating her feelings, you dismissed them and made her feel nuts.” Said one.
“The issue isn’t even really the joke anymore; it’s OP’s refusal to discuss with his wife further. That is suspicious. Honestly, I don’t think anything is going on with the coworker, but what his wife saw was a woman that OP sees daily flirting with her husband, and he is blowing her off about it.” Another added.
Try Turning The Tables, Maybe?
“Your wife got a peek at your boundaries and didn’t like it, and you laughed it off. If the tables were turned and a guy from work called your wife and made a similar inappropriate joke, you’re not feeling a certain way?”
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