While relationships can offer a wealth of love, support, and companionship, certain indicators may suggest that a particular relationship may not endure the test of time.
An internet user asked, “What screams ‘we are not going to last long’ for couples?”. The responses below are so on point that we just can’t stress enough!
Talking To Each Other In Nasty, Snappy Tones
“The way they speak to each other when they’re not alone.
I noticed this after my divorce and I started dating again because you speak to these new people with a lot of respect and kindness. Then we’d get around married couples and they’d say awful things to each other in nasty snappy tones, and it was jarring.
Fast forward ten years and all those couples I noticed doing that are divorced now.”
Creating Uncomfortable Atmosphere
“When both make the atmosphere so uncomfortable when you are in their house.”
Walking On Eggshells Around Your Partner
“‘Walking on eggshells’ around your partner in terms of what you can and can’t say. If you feel you can’t disagree with your partner and/or voice your opinion without it turning into an argument.”
When One Person Wants To ‘Fix’ The Other
“When one person wants to ‘fix’ the other. If your relationship is a repair project, you didn’t fall in love with who they are. You fell in love with what you want them to be.”
Having Strongly Conflicted Future Plans
“If they have strongly conflicted plans for their future. Either means they’ll break up eventually or one or both of them will end up in an unhappy compromise.”
Constantly On Break Up/Patch Up Mode
“Breaking up every few minutes and then back together again.”
When Everyone Else Think It’s A Bad Idea
“A recent personal experience I witnessed.
The entire immediate family of one side of a wedding said it was a bad idea and less than a month into the marriage one of them stayed at their mom’s house for the night because they were fighting.
Also, they got engaged as a result of a failed break-up attempt…”
Controlling Each Other
“If one or both of the people are controlling over the other.”
Lack Of Communication
“Lack of communication.
Discussing every disagreement means screaming over each other, exploding, shutting off Communications and/or running out of the room.
So they won’t be able to resolve anything in a constructive manner.”
Disagreements Getting Converted Into Arguments
“If all disagreements end in arguments. My partner and I disagree about a lot of stuff. But we can talk, discuss, and even sometimes agree with the other person’s side. It’d be weird if you saw eye to eye on 100% of stuff too.”
Contempt Over Your Partner’s Feelings
“I was at a party one time and there was a marriage counselor there that had been working for 20-something years in couples’ counseling. I asked her what the number one sign was that the couple wasn’t going to make it. Without hesitating, she said ‘If one person shows contempt for the other’s feelings, it’s over!’.”
Toxic Methods Of Conflict Resolution
“If your conflict resolution method is either screaming and insults or completely shutting down.”
Too Many Calculations
“When you start calculating how much you give and receive in a relationship.”
Need Social Media Validation
“When they post each other too much. I get the occasional pic together but when you full-on document every little thing it just comes across as wanting to prove your relationship to other people because you’re insecure.”
Tattoos Of Each Other’s Names
“I knew a guy who had an ex-wife’s name on his arm. When he got married, he just had it covered up in larger letters with his new wife’s name. It looked terrible.”
When It All Starts With Cheating
“If the relationship started by one of them cheating on their previous partner and then leaving them to be with this new person. I’ve witnessed two of these IRL and both of them ended with, surprise, more cheating.
Like I don’t know why you’d possibly think starting a relationship with someone who you already know isn’t faithful would be a good idea.”
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This article was originally published on Mrs. Daaku Studio.