Not everyone who stays in long-term relationships has marriage as an end goal.
A netizen recently asked, “Couples who have been together a long time (5+ years), why are you not married?”. The following responses will surprise you!
IT WILL SCREW MY DISABILITY
“Because it will screw up my disability and medicare if I get married,” said one.
“This is the reason for a good number of people I know. Not to mention, if they get married and have kids, they lose the earned income credit they claim at the end of the year,” another added.
WE WERE AVOIDANT
“We avoided some big issues for way too long, and now it’s couples therapy time. We’ve got to either hash it out or cut our losses.”
DON’T REQUIRE GOVERNMENT’S APPROVAL
“Because we don’t need the government’s approval to be there for each other.”
WE HAVE OTHER IMPORTANT GOALS
“Because we have other goals that are notably more important than a piece of paper.”
I DON’T SEE THE POINT
“I don’t see the point. Where I live, I don’t think there’s any legal benefit from a marriage that doesn’t automatically come with a de facto partnership over two years.
I don’t understand at all why anyone gets married or why people treat marriage as somehow more ‘real’ than a long-standing committed relationship.”
NOT THE GOAL
“Marriage isn’t the goal.”
WHY LEGALLY TIE YOURSELF TO SOMEONE?
“Some people simply just don’t want to get married, and it makes sense. Why legally tie yourself to someone with a chance of the relationship messing up and your significant other taking the house and most of your belongings to mess with you.”
DON’T NEED A STAMP OF AUTHENTICITY
“The government doesn’t dictate who I designate as my beneficiary, and the tax break wasn’t good enough. The government also doesn’t need to stamp authenticity on my relationships.”
DIVORCE IS EXPENSIVE
“Divorce is expensive, and the only people who get divorced are ones who got married.”
IT’S POINTLESS
“Marriage is particularly pointless when you don’t have kids and don’t own any property.”
I PREFER NO PAPERWORK
“I’ve done the marriage thing. It’s just like dating but with paperwork. I prefer no paperwork.”
WE’D RATHER SPEND THE MONEY ON OUR KIDS
“Honestly, we have kids and would rather spend the money on them than something arbitrary.”
SEEMS LIKE AN EXTENDED VERSION OF THE DOWRY SYSTEM
“Seems like some legacy of the dowry system/ownership. If my partner of 12 years decides to leave me, why lock in?
I would instead organize and spend on a holiday than an overpriced party with expensive chair covers, a dress you wear once, etc.”
NOT FOND OF THE CONCEPT
“Not fond of the idea of the institution of marriage. We’re married already, shared economy and all that. If we wanted kids, there could be some legal considerations, but we don’t.
I find it reassuring that she puts up with me even with no particular vows spoken, and I will 100% never propose to her because she is such a pain.”
IT’S TOO TRADITIONAL
“I don’t like the idea of it. I am not traditional, which seems too traditional for me.”
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This article was originally published on Mrs. Daaku Studio.