She Trash-Talked Her Sister’s Wedding, Then Demands She “Finance” Her Honeymoon. Thinks She Deserves The World, But Does She?

Although they were happy with their day, Jamie had much to say. She practically spent every family event after the wedding gossiping about how my wedding was so “trashy and cheap”.

OP thinks Jamie expected a lot more from her because OP works as a software engineer, and my husband is a surgeon, and they could have afforded a much nicer wedding.

Now it’s time for Jamie’s wedding, and she has plans to go all out for it, which OP wouldn’t care about if she could afford it, but instead, she has become a greedy bridezilla asking anyone and everyone for cash.

Their parents refused to give more than the original $25k, and other family members have chipped in, but maybe $5k max combined.

Unfortunately, OP’s sister knows OP saved the $20k from their parents and that OP’s husband and OP have a good amount of money saved up because of our salaries.

She has been asking OP nonstop to give her the $20k as a wedding gift or help pay for another one of her events like the bridal shower, bachelorette, rehearsal dinner, or honeymoon.

She reasons that OP’s husband and OP could easily afford to gift her one of these things.

Jamie says OP even gifted my cousin a honeymoon vacation as a wedding gift last year, so why couldn’t OP do something similar for her only sibling when she did that for a cousin?

She’s right that OP could easily afford to pay for parts of her wedding, but honestly, OP doesn’t want to give her anything after she treated her so poorly following OP’s wedding.

OP says, “I told her my reasoning and that I don’t want to (financially) support someone who didn’t support me on my big day, and now she has been telling the family that I’m extremely selfish and immature for this.”

Apparently, she has already put down deposits on many services and vendors for her plans and just expected OP to help pay for it, but now she has no way of paying the vendors, and she can’t get her deposits back either. So now OP’s family wants me to help her so she doesn’t lose her little money. OP doesn’t see how this is my problem.

OP wants to know if she is a jerk.

“Not wrong. That sure is some entitlement your sister has. Even without her trash-talking in the past, this is way too demanding.”

“Not wrong – I hope that when you say your family wants you to pay, you don’t mean your parents. They should be siding with you and trying to shut down other relatives. If they aren’t, weddings are traditionally the responsibility of parents; if anyone other than the couple, indeed not the siblings’ problem.”

“Not a jerk. Why do people plan events that are outside their budget and then expect others to make up the difference? $25k is a lot of money if spent wisely. She banked on having the $20k you saved from the outset. No, just plain no.”