The line between fairness and practicality can sometimes blur in relationships.
A netizen recently asked, Am I a jerk for using my husband’s car to get to work after he tricked me into going to his family’s BBQ party? Let us know what you think.
Backstory:
OP (F33) is a nurse, she has a very, very busy schedule. It’s been crazy the past couple of years.
Her husband (M36) works an office job, and because he’s a family-oriented type of guy, he always hangs out with his family.
His family lives on a ranch in the middle of literally nowhere. It’s a hassle to go there and due to OP’s work nature, she doesn’t go to most of their functions, but she does make sure to attend the big ones.
What Happened Last Week?
Last week, OP’s husband’s family wanted to host a BBQ party. He wanted OP to go with him so badly since all his brothers were bringing their wives and since they mocked him for coming alone in the past.
What Does OP Say
OP says, “I said sorry but I had a shift to cover. He begged, suggested I swap shifts with other nurses who are my friends and even called them all to beg them to cover for me. I grew irritated and told him to stop it. He sulked for a whole day then dropped it.”
When The Time Came For OP’s Shift
In the morning, and hours before OP’s shift, she discovered that her car’s tires were out of air. Her husband offered to drive her to the hospital at 4 pm and she agreed.
OP Got Ready
OP got ready and they got in the car but instead of taking her to the hospital, he drove OP straight to his family’s ranch.
OP was dumbfounded and angry after he said he tricked her into attending this BBQ and that she had to do it and set this shift out. OP was so mad she didn’t know what to say. They got to the ranch, and OP sat outside fuming.
How Did OP React
OP says, “I waited and saw I still had time to make it to the hospital if I figured out a way to get there.
I watched my husband go inside, leaving his Keychain next to me (right where he was sitting). I took it and rushed to the back where all cars were parked, got into the car and drove off.”
OP’s Husband’s Reaction
OP’s husband’s dad saw OP and told him. He started calling her phone relentlessly until she turned it off. She got to the hospital in time but didn’t dare turn her phone on til it was past 8 pm. She opened it and saw tons of angry messages from him berating her calling her horrible and a manipulator.
OP Got On The Phone With Him
Next, OP got on the phone with him and he yelled about the awful stunt she pulled and bailed from the party and made him look bad in front of his family. He then calmed down and said that he now knows that work is more important to OP and that he won’t ever trust her after she basically stole his car and ran with it.
What Next?
OP says, “We’ve been on terrible terms since then. His family is also mad, but I haven’t spoken to them about it yet nor clarified anything. Am I the jerk for what I did? I was desperate and worried that messing up my shift might cost me my job.”
God Knows Where He’d Take You Next
“Not the jerk. You do know that he was the one that messed with your tires right?” Said one.
“Right? I read the air was out of the tires, and I was sure. I wonder where he’ll take you next without your permission (kidnap for drama).” Another added.
Did He Just Call You Manipulative?
“I’m sorry, he called YOU manipulative?! The person that LIED TO YOUR FACE to get you to do what he wants to do. On top of this, he prioritizes HIS LEISURE TIME over your career. Don’t you dare apologize to him? Feel free to leave him.”
This Doesn’t Sound Like A Healthy Relationship
“I mean, we are pretty sure he deflated your tires as part of the sneaky plan to get you to his family’s bbq, right? And he’s calling you the manipulator? This doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship at all.” Said one.
“Not to mention how many lines he crossed calling her coworkers to cover her shift for a stupid bbq. He’s so manipulative it’s insane!” Another added.
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