A Muslim man is dating an American woman who wears a bikini in front of his parents, which makes him feel uncomfortable. A user took forum, Am I wrong for not letting my girlfriend wear a bikini in front of my family?
The Original Poster, or OP was 26 years old; his girlfriend was 22, and they had been dating for around two years. OP and his girlfriend had ups and downs but have a great relationship overall.
OP Says They See Future Together
OP says that he sees a future together. He and his girlfriend love and respect each other, and they are connected well! But the thing was, they were from different backgrounds.
A LITTLE MORE
OP comes from a Muslim Background but is not religious, and his girlfriend is White. OP says they still made it work and added that their similarities are much more than their differences. His girlfriend likes wearing short clothing when going out, which initially bothered him and made him uncomfortable.
OP and his girlfriend had a few minor fights over it, but eventually, OP came to terms with it.
WHAT HAPPENED NEXT?
OP was embarrassed by the current situation that had happened. OP and his girlfriend went to the pool party at OP’s cousin’s house, and OP’s parents were also there.
WHAT WAS THE GIRLFRIEND TOLD
OP had recently introduced his girlfriend to his parents as well. So he thought it would be a good time to meet family and relatives. OP told her to pack something more modest, as his family would be there. Most women in OP’s family don’t wear such revealing stuff as per the culture.
OP’s girlfriend didn’t give much of a response and just nodded.
OP WAS SHOCKED
To OP’s shock, his girlfriend was in a two-piece bikini with a short bottom. OP says that even One Piece would’ve been better, but she went all in this time.
OP Was Sad
OP was sad because his girlfriend was probably the one dressed most immodestly. OP says that no one said anything, but afterward, he was so embarrassed that he couldn’t show his face to his parents.
WHAT HAPPENED NEXT
OP talked to her about it and scolded his girlfriend a bit. OP’s girlfriend said she wishes to wear whatever she wants. OP couldn’t say anything. They have been quiet to each other for a while, but they are slowly making up now.
BREAK UP IF THINGS DON’T WORK
“I have a Muslim family, and I grew up in the NL while my family is in Turkey. Here is my advice, don’t date someone and change them whenever it doesn’t suit you. It’s a typical case of having your cake and eating it too. You discuss these things beforehand, especially if you have a cultural difference. If your morals don’t align, you break up. This is not going to get any better when the relationship continues. How are you going to raise the kids? It’s not disrespecting them in their home; it’s values not aligning.
Also, don’t have a pool party if you don’t wanna see skin.”
SHE IS NOT A MUSLIM
“she isn’t Muslim. They are. She doesn’t have to follow anything, & a non-muslim person dressing the way they want around Muslim people dressing the way they want is not disrespectful. It’s their rules, their culture, their religion. not hers.”
YOU ARE WRONG
“And yet, the only person visibly perturbed by the situation was OP. No one in his family said they felt disrespected or like she was being inappropriate.”
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