Have you ever gotten jealous to the point that you ended up bashing someone publicly for no real reason at all? We hope not!
An internet user asked, “Am I a jerk for telling my friend to stop flaunting her money and calling her a gold digger?”. Here’s the full story for your context.
Backstory
The Original Poster, OP (39F) has been BFFS with “Jill” (40F) since they were in high school. Between the two of them, Jill has always been a bombshell. Blonde, tall, slim, big bust, etc.
She Never Dated
She never dated anyone in high school which was weird to OP because almost everyone in their school did, including OP. When they were in college and she was still turning guys down, OP asked her why and she said she wants someone who is financially stable.
“I laughed it off at the time. I should also mention she grew up poor, as in her mother was going to the food bank poor.”, says OP.
What Happened After They Graduated?
After they graduated, Jill got a job at a gym teaching Yoga, OP continued her education to be a teacher.
Jill eventually met someone at the gym and he’s RICH, like OP can’t even comprehend the kind of money this guy has. Fast forward to now, they’re married, with two kids and OP believes she signed a prenup when they got married.
Last Saturday’s Dinner
They were out to dinner on Saturday that just passed with two other friends from college, and Jill wanted to go to a very expensive place. Her treat.
What Else Does OP Say
“She does this a lot. Flaunts her money, clothes, trips etc, etc. I always try to smile and ignore it but it was been slowly bothering me. The dinner was going fine until one of our friends ‘Amanda’ asked ‘Jill’ what she was planning for her birthday.
‘Jill’ said she and her husband are going to Greece for 3 weeks. ‘Amanda’ and ‘Sharon’ both made comments about how nice and lovely that is and I kind of scoffed at it.”, says OP.
All Hell Broke Loose
When Jill asked OP what was wrong, OP admittedly lost it. OP told her she’s tired of her flaunting her money at everyone all the time and everyone knows she only married her husband for money.
It Was Quiet
It got really quiet for a couple of seconds and to OP’s surprise Jill very calmly asked everyone if that’s what everyone else also really thought. OP said “Yes”.
Jill then asked if it was at all possible that she initially dated him for his money but fell in love with him along the way. Both their other friends said “Of course”.
At the same time OP said “No”. OP told her she fell in love with what he can provide for her.
More Chaos
Jill then asked OP if she loved what her boyfriend provides for her, which, according to OP, was different because she never started dating him for those things.
Jill countered that with “Of course you did, if you were just attracted to him but he wasn’t loving, providing, caring, you wouldn’t still be in a relationship with him and if you were it would be an unhappy and unhealthy one”. OP argued and said it’s still not the same thing.
What Did Jill Do Next?
Jill then stood up and said she has other places to be and not to worry about the bill. She left, and the three of them finished their meal in silence.
When the server came around, he handed OP the bill FOR HER MEAL ONLY. Jill paid for herself and the other two but left OP to pay for an almost $50 meal that she really couldn’t afford.
OP Says What?
OP says, “I texted her and called her a jerk, she replied saying not to message her again until I apologize for my earlier comments. I admit I might have been too hard but I don’t think I’m wrong. So am I a jerk?”
Pick A Lane And Stick To It
“You’re the jerk. So when Jill treats you and other friends to a lovely dinner, her treat, she’s a gold digger flaunting her money, but when she leaves you with your portion of the bill to pay, you can’t afford it and she’s a jerk for not paying your bill. You can’t have it both ways. Pick a lane and stick to it.”
Jill Did The Right Thing
“You’re the jerk. Eagerly takes her money for a free lunch but is jealous when she spends it with her husband. I love how Jill left you with the bill.”
You Sound Insanely Jealous
“You’re the jerk, you sound insanely jealous of Jill. Her ‘flaunting her money’ is just her (trying) to buy you lunch. She didn’t bring up money.
You and your friends did. She tried to do something nice for you, you blew up at her for no reason, and so she left you with the bill.”
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