Unfairly taking someone’s money, even within a family, is not right. The son had every reason to be upset about his future stepmother’s actions.
A user asked the forum, Am I a jerk because I threatened to send my stepmother to jail?
BACK STORY
The Original poster’s parents have been divorced for over ten years. OP and his siblings ( a younger brother and elder sister ) met his father’s new girlfriend about four years ago.
Their not-yet stepmother always disliked them, and they didn’t like her either. OP’s not-yet stepmother subtly implied that she doesn’t like them.
FATHER OVERLOOKED
They have often tried to tell this to their father, but OP’s father was the quiet type. OP’s father never gets involved and believes that they should feel educated by his girlfriend.
OP moved out of the house one year ago.
WHAT HAPPENED NEXT?
Now, OP got to know that his father and his girlfriend had planned to get married. OP also got to know that it was his father’s girlfriend’s idea.
OP addresses that even though their family has never been financially well-off, his “stepmother” wants to have a big celebration.
CONFLICTS STARTED
The problem started when OP’s to-be stepmother demanded financial support from all of them for the celebration because they included the family.
SOME DID HELP
OP’s elder sister was kind-hearted and even offered to help voluntarily. But OP and his younger brother were annoyed.
OP refused to give her a single buck and suggested making the celebration smaller. OP’s to-be stepmother flipped out, and they had a heated argument.
WHAT HAPPENED NEXT
After that, OP and his to-be stepmother didn’t have any contact for a few days until OP suddenly received a notification that a certain amount of money was missing from his bank account.
It turned out that OP’s “to-be stepmother” had her hands in his accounts.
Since OP had a good relationship with his father, he had access to one account from where OP’s stepmother took the money.
WHAT DOES OP SAY
OP says that It wasn’t a significant amount, but when she refused to return the money, OP threatened to report her to the police for theft.
He also says that all the relatives think that OP wants to prevent the wedding, and they ask him not to make a fuss around it and also said that family is more important than money. But OP says he was angry and waiting to see if she would return the money. If not, he is ready to go through it.
YOU ARE NOT WRONG
“Call your bank immediately, have your father removed from your account, and tell them what happened. Whether or not you take legal action, you need to change ALL of your passwords and account access on literally anything you have- if you ever logged into an account of any kind at your dad’s house, you need to change those passwords. Tell your dad that you are officially removing him from anything he can access that is yours, as his fiancé has crossed boundaries you’re not willing to compromise on.
Don’t cave on this- she is helping herself to YOUR money, and it definitely won’t be the last time. They’re not even married yet, and she’s expecting you to pay her way- the fact that she thinks a 19-year-old and 21-year-old have money to spare is unhinged.”
YOUR FATHER IS A THIEF
“So, did he take the money for her or just give her the access information? Either way, your dad is also a thief unless she “somehow” found out how to access it.”
GIVE A DEADLINE
“Give Dad a deadline. Money is returned by Monday morning, or you call the police at 8 a.m. Something like that.
The problem with the police angle is you gave your father your password and info. It will be a civil matter. You are going to need some sort of proof that she took the money; voicemails, texts, etc. She is going to say it was your dad who took it otherwise. So how quiet is your dad willing to be if she is going to make him complicit in the theft of your money?
Also, for those who say you are trying to prevent the wedding, ask them why you should want a thief in the family. She’s going to keep taking what she can. Maybe ask Dad to keep her away from his main account.
Good luck; you and your family are on a collision course for drama city.”
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