Sister’s Friend Discipline Brother’s Son. He Puts Her in Place, Says “Who The Hell Are You?”. Wonders If He Did Something Wrong.

The Original Poster’s (OP) sister, cousin, and friends got together last night after work. OP’s sister brought a friend with whom OP had only met a few times. OP never had an issue with it.

Friend Arguing with Son

At one point, OP went to the bathroom, and the ladies were in the living room, calmly enjoying wine. When OP came out, OP’s sister’s friend was arguing with my son in the kitchen. OP asked her what she was doing.

She said OP’s son went into the kitchen to get food, and she told him to wait until OP came out of the bathroom to ask OP for permission. OP stared at her for a second, then said, “Who are hell are you? You don’t live here. He does. Who are you to tell him he can’t go in his kitchen?”

She Look Surprised

She looked surprised and said she was trying to be helpful. OP repeated his question of why she thought it was okay to tell someone they can’t use their kitchen when she’s a guest in someone else’s house. She dodged the question and then brought up that she’s a teacher, which isn’t even relevant, and sometimes kids try to get around rules.

OP asked her what that had to do with anything. OP then asked who even permitted her to go in my kitchen.

She said she followed my son in. OP said, “So you think my son needs permission to go in his kitchen, but you can go wherever you like in my house without an invitation? So you have more rights here than he does?”

She said she didn’t feel welcome anymore and was leaving. She returned to the living room, grabbed her bag, and walked out.

“I agree with you. Not wrong. If some stranger, which, let’s be real he doesn’t even really know this lady since he said he’s only met her a few times, FOLLOWED my child unprovoked with not even a truly sensible reason like someone else mentioned of playing with knives, I’d be incredibly weirded out. For all we know, she’s one of those gross kinds of teachers that only became a teacher to be mean to children.

There are those kind of people out there. Or worse. She could be a pervert and just lied about being a teacher. Did your son confirm exactly what this lady was telling him?”

“I don’t understand why your sister was so upset. If people behave like that in the house of someone they don’t know, to some kid they don’t know, lecturing them about rules they have no idea exists, all based on “I’m a teacher”, I wonder what kind of other behavior sister excuses. This is weird at the very least.”

“Furthermore, you gave a great example of how to use common logic against manipulation and gaslighting. He saw you having his back and how to not let anyone mess with your brain. You knew it was wrong, and you didn’t let her confuse you by reversing the roles. That was a precious lesson. Good job on that!”