Receiving gifts is a wonderful way to show appreciation for the people in our lives. However, sometimes we may receive gifts that we are unable to accept. This can be for a variety of reasons, such as the gift being too expensive, impractical, or something that we simply do not want or need.
A user asked the forum, “Am I a jerk for refusing a gift that requires me to drive 3.5 hours to get?”
BACK STORY
The Original Poster (OP) says that her father is a very “my way or the highway” type of person. OP says that her father always means well, but sometimes it can be harsh.
IT WAS HER SON’S BIRTHDAY
OP’s son just had a birthday, and one item on their wishlist was a bike trailer that hooks onto the back of a bike, and his son can sit in it while OP rides.
HER FATHER BUYS GIFTS AT FACEBOOK MARKETPLACE
OP’s dad, rather than buying a new one, went onto the Facebook marketplace and found a very nice quality one that can hold up to 125 pounds since she also has an old dog that she would love to take on rides.
SHE GAINED WEIGHT
She says that this is also her father’s way of trying to get her to exercise since she put on baby weight, and he doesn’t want to come right out and call her fat.
OP says she gained 25 pounds from having her son, so it’s not like she completely let herself go.
IT DOESN’T SOUND APPEALING TO HER
She says that the only downside is it would require a 3.5-hour trip to collect, and she would have to take her son with her, so it doesn’t sound appealing.
She asked if the gentleman could meet her halfway, and her father called her selfish and ungrateful.
SHE RETURNED THE MONEY
So, OP just returned the money her dad had sent her, and she told him it’s not a gift she needed immediately and would rather wait.
GRANDPARENTS WERE AGAINST OP
OP’s sister said that she was not wrong since that’s a whole afternoon adventure with a baby, and it’s a lot of work, but the other set of grandparents said it’s a minor inconvenience for a nice gift.
OP asks if she is a jerk.
ASK THEM TO PICK
“If the other grandparents think it’s a minor inconvenience, ask them to pick it up.”
IT IS NOT EVEN A GIFT
“Wait, I don’t have to buy people gifts anymore? I can just respond to ads on Facebook and tell people to go pick it up themselves.
Can I just tell people what store sells the thing they want and tell them to go buy it themselves too? Wow, this changes everything!”
IT IS WEIRD
“It wouldn’t even be that weird to get it herself if it wasn’t hours away?
If my parents were like, “hey, we paid a guy on Facebook for this for you, and he lives the next town over,” I’d be like, sweet, thanks! But expecting someone to drive hours to pick up their gift? That’s just inconsiderate.”
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