{"id":26700,"date":"2023-10-16T01:15:47","date_gmt":"2023-10-15T19:45:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/?p=26700"},"modified":"2023-10-16T01:15:47","modified_gmt":"2023-10-15T19:45:47","slug":"sister-in-law-furious-after-family-accuses-her-of-sleeping-with-boss-for-daughters-college-fund-wants-to-tell-the-truth-should-she-we-think-not","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mrsdaakuacademy.com\/sister-in-law-furious-after-family-accuses-her-of-sleeping-with-boss-for-daughters-college-fund-wants-to-tell-the-truth-should-she-we-think-not\/","title":{"rendered":"Sister-in-Law FURIOUS After Family Accuses Her of Sleeping With Boss For Daughter’s College Fund. Wants To Tell The Truth, Should She? We Think NOT."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>It can be difficult to hear harsh jokes from family members, but it is important to remember that you are not obligated to tolerate them.<\/p>\n<p>A user asked the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.reddit.com\/r\/AmItheAsshole\/comments\/15dmy3m\/wibta_for_revealing_where_my_kids_college_money\/\">forum<\/a>, “Will I be a jerk for revealing where my kid’s college money came from?”. Read the complete story to know if this is wrong.<\/p>\n<h2>BACKSTORY<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_30558\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-30558\" style=\"width: 2000px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-30558 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/crazy-woman-.jpeg\" alt=\"Portrait of funny wondered adult blond woman looking at camera with idiotic silly comical expression, making fish face with lips, stupid duck grimace. indoor studio shot isolated on green background\" width=\"2000\" height=\"1333\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-30558\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image Credits: Deposit Photos<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>The Original Poster (OP) is a single mother (43F), she has two kids, 18f and 14m. She says that their fathers are not in the picture.<\/p>\n<p>Recently she was contacted by her ex-BIL (40M).<\/p>\n<h2>WHAT DID OP\u2019S EX-BIL SAY?<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_31925\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-31925\" style=\"width: 2000px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-31925\" src=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/confused-man-.jpeg\" alt=\"Middle age man wearing business suit making fish face with lips, crazy and comical gesture. funny expression.\" width=\"2000\" height=\"1333\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-31925\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image Credits: Deposit Photos<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>He told her that when he married her sister (38F), he had started college funds for her kids. They separated, but he still wanted to give the money to her children.<\/p>\n<h2>WHAT DID OP SAY?<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_31745\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-31745\" style=\"width: 2000px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-31745\" src=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/worried-and-guilty.jpeg\" alt=\"Young brunette woman standing over white background pointing displeased and frustrated to the camera, angry and furious with you\" width=\"2000\" height=\"1333\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-31745\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image Credits: Deposit Photos<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>OP says that it’s not a full-ride amount, but it will mean her daughter won’t have to <a href=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/overnight-night-jobs-from-home\/\">work during college<\/a> unless she wants to spend money, and it’s all that she or her parents can give her.<\/p>\n<h2>SHE ASKED NOT TO TELL ANYONE ABOUT IT<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_31513\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-31513\" style=\"width: 1999px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-31513\" src=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/shocked-with-whats-happening.jpeg\" alt=\"stupor surprised funny face expression\" width=\"1999\" height=\"1408\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-31513\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image Credits: Deposit Photos<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>She says that she was overjoyed at this but she asked him not to tell anyone because her sister had grown quite bitter about their divorce.<\/p>\n<h2>OP’S PERSPECTIVE ABOUT THEIR DIVORCE<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_26125\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-26125\" style=\"width: 2000px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-26125\" src=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/wtf-woman4.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"2000\" height=\"1334\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-26125\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image Credits: Deposit Photos<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>She also added that she is not really sure what went down, but they had separate finances, so she didn’t think it would be due to money reasons.<\/p>\n<h2>OP TOLD HER FAMILY ABOUT THE FUND<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_25969\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-25969\" style=\"width: 2000px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-25969\" src=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/wtf-woman-3.jpeg\" alt=\"Beautiful young blonde woman wearing colored sweater afraid and shocked, surprise and amazed expression with hands on face\" width=\"2000\" height=\"1333\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-25969\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image Credits: Deposit Photos.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Everyone was overjoyed when she told her family they had received a donation to her daughter’s college fund.<\/p>\n<h2>HOW DID THEY FEEL?<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_25267\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-25267\" style=\"width: 2000px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-25267\" src=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/lady-crying-and-upset.-sad..jpeg\" alt=\"lady crying and upset. sad.\" width=\"2000\" height=\"1335\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-25267\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image Credits: Deposit Photos<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>But they are also really suspicious because there have been times in the last few years when money would have really helped.<\/p>\n<h2>A HARSH JOKE<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_25650\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-25650\" style=\"width: 2000px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-25650\" src=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/wtf-omg-shocked.jpeg\" alt=\"Young beautiful woman wearing casual clothes, posing on white background\" width=\"2000\" height=\"1333\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-25650\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image Credits: Deposit Photos<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Someone in her family started the “joke” that she got this from her boss for “favors.”<\/p>\n<p>She says that it’s not true, but her sister and brother won’t let it go. “Let’s get takeout tonight; hey, X, go sleep with your boss and get it.”<\/p>\n<h2>HOW DID OP FEEL?<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_25674\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-25674\" style=\"width: 2000px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-25674\" src=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/wtf.jpeg\" alt=\"Young hispanic woman standing over pink background shooting and killing oneself pointing hand and fingers to head like gun, suicide gesture.\" width=\"2000\" height=\"1333\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-25674\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image Credits: Deposit Photos<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>She says that she was not doing a good job explaining it, but she feels it’s quite hurtful to have her family saying these things, even as jokes.<\/p>\n<h2>WHAT WAS HER DECISION?<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_24789\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-24789\" style=\"width: 1999px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-24789\" src=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/wtf-woman1.jpeg\" alt=\"Portrait of perplexed Asian Kazakh girl with a dazed face expression spreads hands, asking what? why? OMG, WTF, human emotions concept\" width=\"1999\" height=\"1333\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-24789\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image Credits: Deposit Photos<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>She added that she is considering telling them BIL is the one behind it.<\/p>\n<p>It will stop them from insisting on knowing the source, but it might hurt her sister to know he helped them.<\/p>\n<p>She also added that she can’t really ask people for advice without it leaking out. She has only told one girl from work, and she suggested here for some anonymous opinions.<\/p>\n<p>She wants to know if she is a jerk?<\/p>\n<h2>THE SCENARIO WILL REMAIN THE SAME<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_25205\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-25205\" style=\"width: 2000px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-25205\" src=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/mean-person-selfish-wtf.jpeg\" alt=\"young pretty woman looking angry, annoyed and frustrated screaming wtf or what\u201a\u00c4\u00f4s wrong with you against gray background.\" width=\"2000\" height=\"1333\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-25205\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image Credits: Deposit Photos<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>“Not a jerk for considering it. However, there is nothing to be gained from telling them the source of the funds. Your family will switch from accusing you of sleeping with your boss to sleeping with your ex-BIL, which will be an even more unpleasant situation.<\/p>\n<p>Sounds like some distance from your sister and brother are in order until they stop their behavior. And tell them why you are now low\/no contact if they ask.”<\/p>\n<h2>WHY DO YOU WANT EVEN TO TELL THEM ANYTHING?<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_24955\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-24955\" style=\"width: 2000px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-24955\" src=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/wtf-whatever-woman.jpeg\" alt=\"Don't know, sorry. Portrait of clueless uncertain confused curly-haired woman in urban style hoodie shrugging shoulders in questioning gesture, looking with indifference. indoor studio shot isolated\" width=\"2000\" height=\"1333\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-24955\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image Credits: Deposit Photos<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>“Why tell them anything? Ever? Why can’t your kids go to school with whatever funds are available and offer no info on how you paid for it?<\/p>\n<p>I miss the days when, like how you paid for college, that new house or car, or anything was personal and not discussed in general.<\/p>\n<p>After reading you are a jerk for a while, I’ve realized that if everyone would just stop regarding controversial, private, and personal info, everyone worldwide would be happier.”<\/p>\n<h2>DON’T DO THAT<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_24624\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-24624\" style=\"width: 2000px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-24624\" src=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/06\/mistake-wtf-oops.jpeg\" alt=\"Oops, what did I do? MODEL holding hand on forehead with frightened and regret expression.\" width=\"2000\" height=\"1335\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-24624\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image Credits: Deposit Photos<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>“You shouldn’t have said anything, so you created this problem for yourself. Now that you are getting all the nonsense for it, you want to cause more drama by revealing the source. Don’t do that.<\/p>\n<p>This will just cause more problems for you and your family and for the BIL who is trying to help you out. If they like to belittle you, then this will just give them more matter. Next, it will be that you were\/are sleeping with him.<\/p>\n<p>Tell your family over and over again that you don’t appreciate them for such jokes and find a way to shut that down that doesn’t give them more ways to hurt you.<\/p>\n<h2>More From Mrs Daaku Studio<\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_17979\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-17979\" style=\"width: 1000px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-17979\" src=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/6.-grandfather-clock.jpg\" alt=\"Bright,Living,Room,With,Beige,And,Olive,Sofa,,Love,Seat,\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-17979\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image Credits: Artazum, Shutterstock<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Thrift stores and goodwill stores are great, but there are many weird instances of people finding things. 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Thinks He Is Right.<a href=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/he-inherited-his-brothers-insurance-401k-refused-to-share-it-with-brothers-widow-and-kids-thinks-he-is-right\/\">Read more.<\/a><\/p>\n<h2><b>Woman Cancels Credit Card After Boyfriend REFUSES to Return It, Is This Financial Abuse?<b><\/b><\/b><\/h2>\n<figure id=\"attachment_23069\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-23069\" style=\"width: 1600px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-23069\" src=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/angry-hatred.jpg\" alt=\"angry hatred\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1000\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-23069\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Image Credits: Roman Samborskyi, Shutterstock<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Woman Cancels Credit Card After Boyfriend REFUSES to Return It. Is This Financial Abuse? We think it is, but we need to hear from you. <a href=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/woman-cancels-credit-card-after-boyfriend-refuses-to-return-it-is-this-financial-abuse\/\">Read here.<\/a>This article was originally published on <a href=\"https:\/\/mrsdaakustudio.com\/sister-in-law-furious-after-family-accuses-her-of-sleeping-with-boss-for-daughters-college-fund-wants-to-tell-the-truth-should-she-we-think-not\/\">Mrs Daaku Studio<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It can be difficult to hear harsh jokes from family members, but it is important to remember that you are not obligated to tolerate them. A user asked the forum, “Will I be a jerk for revealing where my kid’s college money came from?”. Read the complete story to know if this is wrong. 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