Imagine you go out of your way to make your loved one happy, only to be met with an unexpected outburst of anger or frustration.
Like, you try to give everything a personalized touch so as to make one of the most significant events of your life more special and memorable but things decide to take a WILD turn altogether.
What Is The User Asking?
An internet user recently asked, Am I a jerk for getting my fiance a ring on a chain? We’d appreciate it if you could drop your views and help him out.
Backstory
The Original Poster (OP) (29M) wanted to propose to his gf (28F). She’s a nurse, so she can’t wear rings at work.
He wanted to give her something she could always keep with her. OP works as a graphic designer, so he designed a ring and a chain that he thought she would really like.
How Was OP’s Gift?
The ring was in a style she’s worn before and likes, with a diamond and opals, which are her favorite. The chain is fairly small, sturdy, and made of a stainless steel core with alternating gold and silver links over top, so it’s stronger.
It was Clipped On
The clasp for the chain is invisible, and the ring can be clipped on and off of the ring without having to take the chain off.
OP says, “I made it so that she could turn it and hide the clip so she could wear the chain separately from the ring.”
What Happened When OP Proposed His Girlfriend?
OP thought it was cool, and he proposed on Sunday at the park after Mother’s Day. There was no one else around to see it. She was initially excited when she saw it and immediately said yes. However, when she pulled it out and saw the chain attached, she accused OP of trying to prank her, and wouldn’t hear a word in edgewise. She was yelling at OP and crying, and he felt horrible.
What Did OP say
OP says, “I tried to explain, and she shut me down and went back to her mother’s. Now she won’t talk to me, and I don’t know what to do. Am I a jerk?”
That Was Very Thoughtful Of You
“You were very thoughtful. She didn’t even want to listen to you. And you’re not even married yet……” Said one.
“Nurse here, I think the ring and chain idea was very creative and thoughtful. I’d love it!” Another added.
Give It To Us, PLEASE
“It sounds beautiful; I’ll take it!” Said one.
“Right?! I’ll take it too, OP, I dream of a chain that can clip on my rings when I don’t feel like wearing them,” Another added.
You Literally Saw It From ALL ANGLES
“You were thinking of her in all places, work too, and went out of your way to make it so she can wear it at work without getting scolded or fired…
The best thing to do would be to try to reach her and explain everything calmly or try to contact the mother privately and try to use her help to mediate; nothing comes to mind on why she behaved like that tbh.”
She Probably Thought It Was A Joke Proposal
“You ain’t a jerk, but where others are thinking her response was over the top, I have a feeling she really does think you were making a joke proposal. Nobody pulls a ring out of its case and finds a chain attached to it. She jumped to a conclusion and assumed you were just messing with her about the whole thing, and that’s why she won’t speak to you now.
Get someone else to talk to her if she won’t talk to you so they can explain it. I’m sure she will calm down once she hears the explanation and realize it wasn’t a joke proposal. Then propose again without the chain attached.”
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