A recent family dispute has raised eyebrows as a stepmother insisted her stepson share snacks he bought with his money. Tensions mounted, leading to an “unbelievable” threat. The burning question remains: Was her behavior justified?
A user asked, Am I wrong for making my stepson share the snacks he brought with his candy with his sister?
Backstory
The Original Poster’s (f32) husband (m40) has a son (m17) from a previous relationship. They have an eight years old daughter together and a baby (7 months)
What Is The Stepson Doing
OP’s stepson got a part-time job around Christmas; he works at Starbucks. He’s using his money to buy mostly gaming equipment, games, and clothes, but sometimes he also buys snacks.
They’re not special snacks or anything, just Doritos or chips from the store. He likes to have some bags to eat while he’s playing.
What Happened Next
He brought a big pack of stuff yesterday after work; when he came home, OP’s daughter asked him what he brought and started looking through the stuff, he had some candy, and she asked for some.
He Told Those Candies Are His
He told her those candies were his and told her not to touch them; she insisted on having some, and as he said no again, they started arguing, and she then cried.
What Did OP’s Daughter Do Next
She came crying to OP (waking up OP’s youngest son, who was teething, btw) and told him what happened. So OP told her stepson to share some candy with her and help.
OP’s Stepson Denied
He argued that he brought it with his own money so he didn’t have to give her anything.
OP says, “I told him that we buy most of our groceries with his dad’s and my money so we could use the same logic; he continued arguing until I threatened him to ground him and he finally gave in. He was upset afterward.”
What Did The Husband Say
When OP’s husband came home, he told him what happened, and after dinner, OP’s husband called OP off for treating step son as a little kid.
He said that since he’s being responsible with a job and getting his own money, then he should get to decide if he wants to share his snacks or not and told me to not get her frustration out on his son.
OP wants to know if she is being a jerk.
You Are A Jerk
“His money, his choice. So you are wrong about that.
An 8-year-old is old enough to know, “no, that’s not yours,” so she’s kinda an ass too. And if you enable her entitled tantrums, you are wrong for that too.
And as for ” I told him that we buy most of our groceries with his dad’s and my money,” — it is your LEGAL OBLIGATION to buy food for your children. And the 8-year-old is not his child; she’s yours, so your “logic” is actually nonsense.
Don’t be the Evil Stepmother.”
You Are Evil
“I get the distinct feeling that OP is bitter that she and her husband are still financially responsible for their stepson and that he gets to spend his hard-earned money however he pleases.”
You Are Obligated To Your Son
“Came to say this. OP, how dare you hold parental obligations over your stepson like it’s some sort of kindness. Get a grip.
By the way, it sounds like husband is the one bringing in the paycheck, so you shouldn’t have a say about anything by that logic.”
Your Eight Year Old Should Do Better
“OP you’re the jerk , I’d go as far as to say 8 year old is a jerk too.
She should know better than to wake the baby to winge over snacks that aren’t hers. But hey, it obviously worked, somehow, you’re thick with your industrious stepson who worked for and bought his snacks , you’re rewarding bratty behavior and threatening to withhold food that should be provided for your stepson as his FATHER is legally obliged too.”
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