Family can be tough, and there’s always something that can set you off. We found someone who experienced just that. A user asks, Am I right for snapping at my aunt who said I wasn’t a real doctor? and we want to hear from you.
Backstory
The Original Poster (OP) (35f) is a plastic surgeon who underwent years of medical school and residency, but it was worth it. She originally started med school with the hopes of going into psychiatry but surgery really interested OP.
The problem started years ago when OP first told her family that she was going into plastic surgery because it interests her the most.
OP had Support
OP says, “My parents, siblings, and bil were all supportive, and whenever I felt like giving up, they were always there to push me.
But a lot of my other family members weren’t as supportive; my aunts always made snide comments about it, as well as my cousins, uncles, and grandparents on both sides; they were all happy when they knew I was in med school but completely flipped when they found out I was pursuing plastic surgery.
It annoyed me at first, but I learned to just move on from it.”
What Did The Aunt Do
But recently, OP’s cousin (40f) on her dad’s side, the aunt’s daughter who keeps making comments about OP’s job, did a plc on nursing and childcare, which didn’t bother OP.
OP couldn’t care less what she does, but the aunt thought OP should know everything happening with her daughter. Every time OP sees her she goes on about how brilliant her daughter is and how amazing she is for doing a plc in nursing and childcare, but the last time OP saw her she said something that annoyed him.
What Happened
OP and her sister were over at her house because she had some hand-me-downs to give to OP’s nephew. They were all eating when she said, “It’s great that she’s going into medical school (she’s not. She doesn’t even have the brains for medical school) maybe we can finally have a REAL doctor in the family.”
What Did OP Say
OP says, “I sat there in silence for a second thinking, what the hell, is she talking about? And then looked at my sister, who looked equally as irritated as me, I snapped back and said, “Her changing kids’ soiled pants doesn’t make her a doctor and her knowing how to clean a cut doesn’t either, she’s not in medical school she’s too dumb for that, she wouldn’t even last a week before dropping out.”
Aunts Start Crying
OP’s aunt looked really irritated and yelled at OP for being rude, and then she told me OP wasn’t much of a doctor either. OP yelled back at her that OP went through years of med school and residency, that he is a licensed doctor and surgeon, and that she doesn’t know what she was talking about.
OP’s aunt started crying and left the room, so OP and OP’s sister just left. A few hours later, OP got a text from the cousin calling me a b*tch for what OP said and “attacking” her mom.
What Does OP Say
OP says, “I got more texts from other family members, and it somehow traveled to my mom’s side of the family as well. The majority of them are telling me to apologize for yelling at my aunt, but my immediate family (mom, dad,brother, sister,in laws, girlfriend) are telling me not to.
Now I’m being shunned by both sides of the family, and they’re all refusing to talk to me and won’t even let me tell my side of the story, so was I a jerk.”
You Are Not A Jerk
“No, the relatives who try to play the comparison game risk getting called out. She effed around one too many times and found out. It’s science.”
You Are A Jerk For What You Said
“No, for going off on your aunt, but you are a jerk, though, for the strays that hit your cousin, who wasn’t even involved in this conversation.”
Everyone Is a Jerk
“You are not a jerk for snapping at your aunt; I completely understand that. If your cousin also made those comments, then you’re definitely, then not a jerk”
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