A Redditor took to the forum and asked, “Am I wrong for giving away an expensive KitchenAid stand mixer my dad got me for my birthday that I thought looked extremely ugly?”
On Original Poster’s (OP) 24th birthday, her father gifted her a grey KitchenAid stand mixer for her apartment, which cost around $700. However, OP did not desire that gift and disliked the color as that did not match her apartment’s aesthetics and was too big.
Eventually, she gave the stand mixer to a friend who appreciated that and was relocating to a different state. Later, OP’s boyfriend gifted her a black stand mixer that suited her apartment’s decor better, which she used.
During his visit, last night, OP’s father noticed that the grey stand mixer was missing and had been replaced by a black one. He asked OP about the whereabouts of the grey stand mixer, and she honestly shared that she had found that unattractive and had given it to her friend, while her boyfriend had gifted her the black one in that place.
What Happened Next?
OP’s father expressed his surprise upon noticing the absence of the grey stand mixer and said that it had been an expensive gift, which he had thought OP would appreciate.
In response, OP pointed out that if her father had been more attentive, he would have known that she disliked the color grey, which happened to be her least favorite color. She further stated that everyone in her life who knew her was aware of this preference.
Although OP did not intend to be impolite, she stated the truth. However, her mother called the following day and advised OP to apologize for hurting their father’s feelings. She stated that the grey stand mixer was a thoughtful birthday gift that had been selected with great care and cost, and giving that away might be perceived as throwing that away.
What Does OP Think?
OP did not believe that an apology was warranted in that situation. She thought that the grey stand mixer, gifted by her father, became her property once given to her.
As such, she felt that she had the right to do what she wanted with that: to give it to a friend rather than throw that away.
What do you think? Was OP right in giving it away? Was OP’s too sensitive to be hurt by what OP did?
This article originally appeared on Mrs. Daaku Studio.