The room we grew up in can become a source of comfort and security, even as adults. While some may not understand this attachment, it is a real and powerful emotion for many people.
What Is The Question
A user took to the forum and asked, “Am I wrong for demolishing my daughter’s room after she moved out?”
Backstory:
Original Poster’s (OP) 18-year-old daughter, Meg, who is currently in college, recently moved in with her boyfriend, leaving her old bedroom unoccupied.
As a result, OP decided to convert the room into a new space.
What About Her Bedroom
Her bedroom used to be right next to the tiny living room. To make the small living room a standard-sized one, OP knocked out her daughter’s room’s wall, refloored the space, and fixed the walls.
It looked like the bedroom was never there, and they had a spacious living room.
What Happened Next?
Upon returning home for a visit, Meg noticed that her bedroom was no longer there and reacted strongly to the change.
She became emotional and accused OP of not wanting her to move back home by completely demolishing her room without any warning.
What Did OP Do
OP reassured Meg that if anything were to happen and she needed to move back home, she would be welcomed back and allowed to sleep on the couch for as long as necessary. However, Meg accused OP of wanting to permanently get rid of her and not wanting her to visit since she had removed her room so quickly, only a few months after moving out.
Meg also argued that OP should have waited longer before changing her old room.
OP asks, “Am I wrong for not waiting longer with the renovation?”
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What Do Others Think?
“My dad and stepmom did this to me in college. The day I left, the room was converted to a guest room without warning, and I took it as my sign to go as soon as college was done. Now they wonder why I don’t call often. YTA.” said one.
You Are A Jerk
“You are the jerk. Is it that hard to talk with your kid before doing something drastic? Not even a warning? That’s cold.” another said.
Ask, How Difficult Is That
“When my kids moved out, I asked if they were coming back and then if I could use their room. If OP didn’t do that first, her daughter would feel like she’s been kicked out! She’s only 18, and OP just removed her safety net. YTA.” another added.
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