A user asked the forum, “What’s the most hurtful thing your parent ever said to you?”
DON’T HAVE KIDS
“They gave me the advice to never have children, that all of us (us six kids) ruined my mother’s life.”
DON’T EXPECT SO MUCH
“I can’t believe you expect so much from us just because you got diagnosed with cancer.
My mother while kicking me out of her house in the middle of chemotherapy at 25 years of age when I couldn’t afford to pay rent on unemployment.”
MOM SAYS THAT SHE WILL KILL THE DAUGHTER
“I was 17 and arguing with my mother. She grabbed my stepdad’s loaded revolver he kept on top of the grandfather clock and pointed it at my face.
She looked absolutely unhinged and told me, ‘I swear I’ll kill you.’ Unfortunately, that’s one of several incidents.
Almost 30 years later, she wonders why we have a very distant relationship.”
“I’ll be back to pick you up in three days. (she did not).”
REGRET ADOPTING YOU
“That they regretted adopting me. Ooof. So you mean TWO families didn’t want me!?!”
REGRET NOT ABORTING YOU
“I wish I had aborted you, and I hate you because you look like your damn father.”
PRIORITIZED SLEEP THAN BRINGING HIM TO HOSPITAL
“Broke my arm on a school ski trip, causing the whole trip to return late.
Dad picked me up at school and told me he wasn’t taking me to the hospital. Maybe mom will take me tomorrow.
Get home; both parents refuse to take me as they need their sleep.
They put sleep ahead of me.
The look the orthopedic doctor gave my mother the next afternoon upon hearing this confirmed it was as messed up as I thought.
This was the 1980’s, so child services weren’t involved.
Edit: I’m both saddened and strengthened by the similar responses.
If you haven’t, please consider therapy. I was in my mid-40s until I did. It can really help. It isn’t too late to start.”
SHOWING BIAS AMONG KIDS
“I love [your sister’s] kids more than yours.
She justified it by calling my husband and me better parents, my husband’s parents as better grandparents, and saying that my nephews “needed it more,” which might all be true, but it still stung.”
The one that rattles in my head the most (either not repressed or just recent enough to remember better) was from my dad after I had lost a bit of weight, who said, “Wow, you actually look like a human being.
My dad speaks in sarcasm, so who knows how rude he was meant to be, but man, that one burrowed deep.”
A MOM TELLING HER DAUGHTER THAT SHE HATE HER
“On her deathbed, the last thing my mom said to me was, I hate you.”
YOU WILL BE HOMELESS
“My mom told my sister when I was five that I would end up homeless or on the street ’cause I was slower in school and for my YOUNGER SISTER to take care of me when we are older (SHE WAS THREE).”
BODY SHAMING
“You’re not pretty – from a beautiful mom who judged most people by their looks and maybe was a titch narcissistic.”
DON’T CONTACT ME
“I didn’t know my birth mother too well as she gave me up for adoption at a young age. When I got older, I looked her up on FB (about ten years ago).
She said, “You have a beautiful family. If all you wanna do is hurt me more, then don’t contact me again.” Lady, you gave me up, and left me with all these unanswered questions. How did I hurt you?
Anyway, I found out not long after that she had passed. I don’t hold anything against her. I was just confused about what she meant and really really wanted some answers as to why she gave me away to the state. I hope her next life she has peace.”
YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH
“That my mom thought I was never good enough for anyone.
Whether it be friendships or relationships, she hated every aspect of how I acted because it’s not down to code.
Now we just rarely talk unless we have to.”
YOU ARE ANNOYING
“My grandfather said everyone thinks I’m annoying. I was like 15 and had really poor self-esteem, so this was devastating to me.”
IS THAT REALLY YOUR BABY?
“My wife and I met, then married three months later, and ten months later, my wife had a beautiful baby girl.
Mom, with a straight face, asks me, “Are you sure it’s yours?”
Edit, 13 months total before having the baby.”
I WILL SHOOT YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND
“Last year, my dad said he should come over to my house and shoot me and my husband. He was not the least bit kidding and had plenty of means to make that a reality.”
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