Being frugal is great, but what if you start to cross the line and be a cheapskate, especially with the food? Where do you draw the line?
An internet user asked on the forum, Am I wrong for cheapening out on food for my kids? And we want to know what you think.
The Original Poster (OP) had two children, and they are still living with OP at home.
Neither decided to go to college, and both had crappy minimum-wage jobs. They had an inheritance from their grandparents that they would get when they turned 25. The amount they were going to receive was enough to cover their living expenses if they lived frugally for their entire lives.
Older Sister Moved Out
The older sister had just moved out after graduating from college. She used to do the grocery shopping and cooking for the house, for which she was given money.
What Happened After She Moved Out
OP tried this with the middle kid the first week after his sister moved out. He and his brother spent all the money on delivery in just two days.
OP Didn’t Give Money
OP didn’t give them more money, so they had to spend their own and were angry.
What Happened Next?
OP started buying the basics, like pasta, bread, eggs, and cheese. He would only cook for himself. OP’s ex-wife, his daughter, and OP had all tried to teach the boys how to cook, but they refused. So they had to cut back on their expenses because OP wouldn’t buy ready-to-eat meals, delivery, or food prep.
The ex-spouse had moved to Wisconsin, and the kids did not want to live with her. They preferred the Texas winters after experiencing just one winter up north.
What Happened Next?
They talked to OP the other day about food again.
They said that OP was being cheap by not providing them with better food options. It was Saturday, so he went into the fridge and pulled out some chicken thighs OP had defrosted.
OP had butter chicken and broccoli with naan bread in an hour for their lunch.
No Changes Were Made
It was conveyed to them that there would be no changes to the household management. They were offered to go to college and have their meal plan covered, but they declined as they liked their lives, except for the food situation.
What Did OP’s Mom Say
OP’s mom called OP and said he was being mean to her poor babies. OP offered to send them to live with her. She politely declined and dropped it.
This is done with everyone who used to contact OP on their behalf, and then they were informed about the outcome. They fail to comprehend why nobody wants them to live with them, leading the parent to think they raised two foolish children.
What Do People Have To Say?
A user says, “Not a jerk. I thought you were depriving small kids of food and was ready to blast you. You seem to be describing two young adults who have graduated from high school and have failed to launch. They seem to be running out the clock on the inheritance. Yeah they can learn to cook or eat ramen then”.
They Have Bad Habits
Similarly, another one said, “not a jerk – they were pampered by their sister and had bad habits. They have money, they can shop, they can spend their own money on things they want.
They have to deal with it. You could start charging them rent? Tell them they need to chip in for groceries? Establish some rules with them about finances. Otherwise, they are going to blow through that inheritance and they will be right back living with you”.
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