Sometimes when you’re with someone, you overlook major red flags. Often, we don’t see how the person is terrible for us.
A user asked, what’s a dead giveaway that someone is not a good person? and here are the top results:
1. They Lack Accountability
“Never taking accountability for anything.”
2. It is NEVER Their Fault
“This is a pretty good indicator of a person with some kind of personality disorder like narcissistic. The clue you are looking for is that nothing is ever their fault. Unless it’s excellent, then, of course, it was all them.”
“When telling you about issues in their life and everything is everyone else’s fault/ no accountability.”
3. They’re Always Talking Bad About People
“Always talking bad stuff about other people when they aren’t around.”
4. They Treat You Differently
“I guess a subtle one is them treating you differently in public vs. how they treat you privately. These can both go either way.”
5. They Try To Manipulate You
“People who try to manipulate a situation from the smallest to the bigger issues. It is exhausting to be around them.”
6. They Have Bad Behaviour Towards Wait Staff
“How someone treats another person based on their job title. Anyone who treats a server, maid, garbage person, etc., like nothing is telling the world how much a piece they are.”
7. They Find Benefits In Talking To Someone
“Treating people well only if they can benefit from them somehow. If they treat you well but treat random people badly, they aren’t good people. And, they’ll treat you like nothing, too, if you ever stop being useful to them.”
8. They Don’t Accept Your Boundaries
“When you express a boundary, they try to guilt trip you, pressure you or threaten you to try and force you to do things you don’t want to do.”
9. They Lack Compassion
“A complete lack of compassion, unless it’s about themselves. Putting people down for fun. Never accepting responsibility for bad behavior. Everything is always about them. Everything. Even if you’re going through something difficult, suddenly, they’ve been through the same thing, but worse. Even when they’re being “generous,” it’s for public display, not from a real place. Sulking and throwing a fit to get their way.”
10. They Think They’re Too Smart
“If they brag about how they pulled a fast one on other people. As if to say how smart/slick they are and everyone else is stupid.”
11. They Never Apologise
“They never apologize.”
“Or their apology is them just listing out problems about other people. The classic “I’m sorry that you have a problem with my actions” instead of “I’m sorry I did something wrong.”
12. Everything is a Joke To Them
“They constantly say or do things where their only justification for doing so is “It was just a joke” when called out on it.”
14. Cannot Celebrate Someone Else’s Success
“When they cannot bring themselves to celebrate someone else’s success.”
15. They Gaslight You
If they are trying to gaslight you or doubt your reality, they’re not a good person to be with.
16. They Yell At You
“Someone who yells at you for crying”
17. Their Actions and Words Don’t Match
“Actions and words not matching.”
“I’d add the caveat of consistently not matching. Sometimes people have valid reasons, and sometimes life happens. But if this happens consistently, I start to wonder.”
18. They Leave The Shopping Cart
“They don’t put the shopping cart back in the corral once done with it.”
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