One sibling is wealthy, so the other thinks it’s unfair to split the inheritance equally. But the parents want to compensate the wealthier sibling for their sacrifices. Who’s right?
A user asked the forum, “Am I a jerk for not wanting to give my wealthier sister the lion’s share of the inheritance?”. Let’s read the full story to understand this better.
BACK STORY
The previous day, the Original poster’s (OP) parents sat him (31 M), his two brothers (32M, 34M), and his sister (41 F) down to discuss their will.
His parents informed them that they want to split it five ways; his sister gets 2/5 while the three of them brothers get 1/5 each.
WHY DID HIS PARENTS MAKE THIS DECISION?
Their reasoning is that his sister “sacrificed” her childhood for their family, so it’s only fair she gets compensated. In their childhood, OP’s father’s business partner screwed him over, so there was a period when they were broke and in debt.
WHAT DID OP’S SISTER DO?
OP’s parents had to work multiple jobs to keep them afloat, and his sister babysat them while their parents worked. He says that all she had to do was feed them and keep an eye on them.
HOW DID OP JUSTIFY HIS POINT?
OP said they were pretty calm kids, so all they did was play games and do their homework.
He says that it probably wasn’t thrilling, but not exactly a tremendous hardship.
WHAT DID OP DO?
OP complained to his parents, along with his brothers, that it’s insane they want to give his sister 2/5 of the inheritance over that, especially since she’s financially the best off out of all of them.
He also says that she doesn’t have any kids and has a dual income with her partner.
OP’s parents said they’re disappointed in them and said they need to reflect on themselves.
HOW DID OP REACT?
His sister didn’t say a word while his parents spoke but texted them afterward that she had zero intention of taking 2/5, but they were all jerks.
OP asks if feeling like this split is unfair is a jerk.
SHE TOOK ON A RESPONSIBILITY
“You are a jerk. Even if she just stayed at home while you were there, she didn’t have teenage freedom, and she made sacrifices and took on responsibilities. It doesn’t matter how affluent she is now; your parents are trying to pay her back for what they couldn’t pay her then.”
SHE WAS UNPAID LABOUR BACK THEN
“You are a jerk. Not many parents are willing to acknowledge that they parentified a child. Your sister sacrificed her teenage years to help your parents take care of you. There may not have been any inheritance at all for you to quibble over if not for her unpaid labor back then.”
YOU ARE ENTITLED
“Yep, You are a jerk. First of all, you are not entitled to any of your parents’ money, they could have left it at a cat shelter, and that would have been fine.
Second, yes, she did in fact make a huge sacrifice by basically becoming a third parent and babysitting you all the time.
All the time you’ve spent playing? She could have been out with her friends, enjoying her childhood, and instead, she was making sure her siblings were fed and out of trouble. You are terribly entitled.”
WITHOUT YOUR SISTER, YOU WILL NOT HAVE AN INHERITANCE
“You are a jerk. It sounds like your parents have an inheritance to give in large part because of your sister supporting them, which allowed them to get out of a financial hole.
It was respectful of our parents to explain their choice; they could have left it without any explanation, and that is their right.
Also, you’re ten years younger; you have no idea what it was like for your sister. You assume you were easy, but you seem pretty entitled now, so I’m guessing you were harder than you knew. She helped parent you, full stop.”
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This article was originally published on Mrs. Daaku Studio.