A person should obviously make sure that their partner is secure and at peace but that doesn’t mean that their lies should be encouraged as well!
The Original Poster (OP) took it to the forum, and asked “Am I wrong for telling my girlfriend to stop saying things that aren’t true about us?”. We want to know from you.
BACKSTORY
OP and his girlfriend have been dating for 7 months, and things have been going pretty well.
WHAT HAPPENED LAST MONTH?
They have been getting serious, so last month they talked about taking the next step and moving in together.
WHAT DID OP NOTICE?
OP started noticing that whenever they would go out, his girlfriend would tell little white lies to strangers.
WHAT DID SHE SAY ABOUT OP’S DOG?
One day OP and his girlfriend were out walking his dog. They came across a couple who asked for their permission to pet the dog. OP said yes and the couple started petting the dog.
Then they started asking about the dog, and before OP could reply, his girlfriend jumped in and said that they got the dog several years ago and he’s just been the best dog to cuddle with over the years and that her life wouldn’t be the same if they hadn’t adopted him.
WHAT WAS THE TRUTH?
The truth is OP adopted the dog with his ex.
ANOTHER EXAMPLE
One day they went to a restaurant and struck up a conversation with the new bartender. OP’s girlfriend suddenly said that the place had been their date night place for several years, which was also a lie.
WHAT DID OP DO?
Although these are little white lies and don’t really hurt anyone, these things slightly irk OP. He asked his girlfriend the reason behind telling these lies.
WHAT DID SHE RESPOND?
She said that it wasn’t a big deal and she did it because she wanted to feel included in his previous life.
WHAT HAPPENED NEXT?
OP was nice to her the entire time, and asked her to not do this as it makes him uncomfortable. His girlfriend agreed to stop but also blamed him for overreacting and had been angry at him ever since.
Now, OP wants to know from the forum if he is right to ask his girlfriend to not lie to strangers.
WHAT DO PEOPLE THINK?
“I would find this odd and troubling, but then I hate being lied to. You see her lie all the time, you have to wonder how much she lies to you.”, said one user.
It Sounds Like There Is Another Reason
“From the nature of the lies, it sounds like there is a reason – she wants to present their relationship as more established than it is, so she’s building a fantasy of years together.
This way she’s also eliminating his past, such as choosing the dog with his ex. So she’s insecure and dishonest. Plus she’s struggling to differentiate between her fantasy of how she would like things to be, and how they actually are.
If she’s doing this when the relationship is at its best and easiest phase, what kind of stories is she going to tell when she’s not happy?”, said another user.
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