Older people and parents are the greatest asset in our lives. They share their wisdom and direct us in the right direction.
A user asked the forum, “What advice have you received in the past that has had the greatest impact on your life and why?” Here are the common responses.
COMPARISON
“The only person you should compare yourself to is yester-you.”
APOLOGY
“The best apology is changed behavior.”
USE YOUR HEART
“When your brain won’t let you push any further, use your heart instead and push out one more.’ A guy told me that at the gym, one day equates to so many parts of life. Your heart can trick your body into doing more than it can.”
LIFE WILL CHANGE IS A YEAR
“A lot can change in 12 months. My dad said this to me in peak COVID-19: I’d lost my job, had no luck finding another, and was about $35,000 in debt; I felt so helpless.
He reminded me to start looking back to what life looked like 12 months ago, and with each year, I made so much progress. I’ve managed to move into a beautiful home with my girlfriend, paid off 90% of my debt, and am in a senior role with a company I love to work for, and I bought my dream car.
In the last three years, I look back to remember how hopeless I thought everything was with each year, and now I’m excited to be able to look back to this moment 12 months from now. You can change your life in a year.”
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
“Take full responsibility for yourself and your life, and don’t blame anything on the outside for your current circumstances. I swallowed that bitter pill at 22, and it has served me well.”
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOUR VACATION
“Take advantage of your vacation time, and don’t hesitate to call in sick occasionally. It’s unnecessary to work inhumane hours and disregard your perks to appease an unobservant supervisor. Everybody should make the most of their vacation and staycation days!”
DON’T CARE ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINION
“Other people’s opinion of you is none of your business. It has helped me stop worrying about what people think of me or trying to control any narrative about me.”
FORGIVENESS
“Forgiveness is for you, not the other person. Forgive to move on and set yourself free; forgiveness doesn’t mean you must accept the person back in your life.”
PUT IN THE WORK TO MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY
“What can you do right now to make yourself happy? Don’t rely on someone else. You have to work to make your life comfortable and rewarding.”
CONSISTENCY
“The formula to being successful in anything is consistency. Show up and do the thing with decent effort every day. Worked for me with everything: job, hobbies, relationships, skills.”
KEEP A SMALL PIECE OF LOVE FOR YOURSELF
“When you fall in love, don’t give all of yourself away. Keep a small piece for yourself. It didn’t make sense then, but it became invaluable as I grew up.”
BE YOURSELF
“Be yourself. That set me back for a while.”
TEACH
“My dad used to say, ‘Teach. Always teach. If you must, use words.’ Many years ago, I found myself in the middle of a business dispute. My father and I were very different. He had a way with words, was soft-spoken, yet carried immense authority. On the other hand, I tended to be louder and more forceful, preferring the ‘big stick’ approach. But on this occasion, I sought his advice.
I sent him a pages-long email explaining every facet of the situation. He was out of the country on business at the time, so it took him a few hours to reply. When he did, I noticed the short response and thought, ‘Did he even bother to read it?’
Then, I opened the email and read his response. I immediately knew the answer to my problem and many more that have followed in the twenty years since. We lost him in 2017, but the lessons live on.”
MISTAKES AND LEARNINGS
“I’m 40 now, but I remember one of the older kids telling me, ‘You don’t need to make a mistake to learn from it’ in middle school.”
SET LIMITS
“Set limits for what you’re prepared to give because people who take have no such limits. I used to be such a pushover. So this one set me straight.”
STOP BLAMING AND STOP MAKING EXCUSES
“Stop blaming and stop making excuses. You are 100 percent responsible for your goals, thoughts, and actions.”
DO IT WITH LOVE
“After a frustrating day at work, my dad told me that when chores and work get tough, do it with love. You might not always get to choose what work the task at hand takes, but if you want to be proud of your work and try for the best outcome for others, try to approach it with love. Love is patient and kind.”
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