Women find a variety of qualities attractive in men, extending beyond physical appearance.
An internet user asked, “What’s something that women are attracted to that doesn’t involve looks?”. The following responses threw some light on the matter.
Voice
“Dated someone who said she loved to hear me speak. It sadly didn’t last since I’m an empty vessel hiding behind a pleasant cadence — but it was nice to hear, nonetheless.”, said one.
“Agreed, my wife said the first thing she found attractive about me was my voice.”, another added.
A smooth singing voice. I don’t care what people say, we women like to be properly serenaded.”
Competence
“Competence, a man that’s mastered his domain, be it a wood shop, surf zone, kitchen or trading floor.
Cheap shot: borrow a cute dog that likes you. Take it for a walk where the women are.”, said one.
“Literally this, I just happen to be naturally very mechanically gifted, and it never ceases to impress the ladies. They like when I ‘talk about car stuff’ as they call it.”, another added.
Brains, Empathy, Compassion
“Brains. Emotional intelligence and emotional maturity. Empathy. Compassion. If you don’t have those, you don’t have a chance.”, said one.
“Yes, this is it for me. Kindness and brains are the whole package. If you have kindness and compassion, I know you will treat me and others well.
If you have brains, you will do well in life (doesn’t have to be monetary). With both, we can work through any problems that may arise.”, another added.
Social Behavior: The Two-Way Street
“If he treats other people well, that is attractive. If people also seem to love him and be kind to him as a response, that is attractive.”
Handwriting
“One of my girlfriends said that she was attracted to me because of my writing. I think that was primarily because I was articulate and used correct grammar.
I told her that if I knew that good grammar and writing style were going to help me attract women, I’d have been more motivated in English class. Lol.”
Cooking
“Cooking. I have NEVER had a woman react badly to me when I said I am a great cook.
Sometimes they say ‘Prove it!’, but I can rise to that challenge easily. If you can cook, fix stuff, and mend your own clothes….to some you are a triple threat.”
Parallel Parking
“That open one-handed flat palm turn thing you guys do with the steering wheel like you are fed up with it and just spin it like crazy and do it perfectly… I mean it is *love*!”
Personal Interests And Hobbies
“Having personal interests and hobbies. Goes the same way for me. As long as it’s not Kardashian/ reality TV type nonsense, I love to listen and hear about it. Nothing quite like seeing people light up talking about their interests.
I’ve talked with women about a lot of stuff, and they enjoy being with someone who has interests outside of a relationship. My wife asks me all the time about different things because I like to know about everything and when I don’t know something and someone else does, I love to listen and question those people to learn.”
Humor, Eye Contact, Genuinely Listening
“Humor, asking questions, genuinely listening/being interested, eye contact and smiling when talking to us.
It’s wild how many men don’t ask questions when talking to women. I’ve said no to second dates with extremely attractive men because they spent the entire time talking about themselves and barely listening to me or seeming to care what I thought.”
Nature
“Nature. A shared love of nature.”
If Animals Like You
“If animals like you. My GF’s roommate had a large breed dog that grew up hating men, but I didn’t realize that for almost a full year, because me and him were best buds.
Apparently, that was a huge turn-on for her, early in our relationship. I got the dog seal of approval!”
Dancing
“Dancing. I’m not talking about the electric slide. I’m talking about dancing with someone who really knows how to move, where to put their hands and when to do it.
Intelligence
“Women find intelligent men attractive. Looks don’t matter in that case. At Least that’s how I feel. No matter how good-looking a man is, it’s an immediate turn-off for me if he is not intelligent and compassionate.”
Communication, Emotional Stability
“As a woman, looks are not my primary concern. Communication, someone who can regulate their emotions, someone who can actually be an adult, compassionate, and someone who I can trust.
Looks are nice but at the end of the day if they don’t have the other things on my list then the looks don’t matter.”
Taking Initiative, Paying Attention, Sense Of Humor, Hygiene
“Taking initiative and paying attention to the small things and showing that… putting in the thought and effort to show you genuinely care and being open to all sorts of conversations. A sense of humor!!!
Also, picking a spot to eat when we don’t know what we want lol.
More tangible attractions are hands (clean nails), clean feet that are groomed, and overall cleanliness. Organized.”
Fragrance
“SMELL. Why do I look forward to seeing him? His smell. It’s just so distinct. Please buy nice colognes, guys, we’ll love you forever!”
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This article was originally published on Mrs. Daaku Studio.