Infidelity undoubtedly represents the most detrimental misstep in a romantic relationship. However, can we identify potential cracks in our relationships before they reach such a critical juncture?
A user asked, “What are the signs your girlfriend is cheating?”. Below are some of the best clues people suggested.
Change In Patterns
“Change in patterns, normally my ex would go to sleep before me, but all of a sudden she would go to bed later than me and actively encourage me to go to sleep.”
Doing What They Previously Didn’t
“When I was cheated on I noticed my girlfriend just started doing stuff she usually wouldn’t. Just small stuff. For example, both of us used to listen to Korean music all the time, but suddenly she started to only listen to Spanish music out of the blue. We also used to go swimming often, but suddenly she lost all interest in that and started playing tennis instead.
Turned out she had found another boyfriend who was Spanish and loved tennis.”
Negative Reactions
“They start caring more about their appearance but react negatively to your affection.”
The Toilet Seat Being Up
“Seeing the toilet seat up at her apartment.”, said one.
“That reminds me of one time I came home to the toilet seat up, and I freaked out! I lived alone! It was the maintenance man who didn’t bother to leave a note that he had been in my apartment.”, another added.
Buying Matching Underwear, She Never Wears
“Buying matching underwear that she doesn’t wear for you.” said one.
“Same. Had a cheating ex buy a hot Christmas romper with matching lingerie, told me she was going to wear it for me on Christmas. Never saw it, but when I asked her what happened to it, she said she was allergic to the latex in it so she returned it, we used latex condoms every time we had sexual intimacy.”, another added.
Too Many Late-Night Hangouts With “Friends”
“Going out with friends every day or 2 (especially after dark) but failing to give you any names of who they’re going with.”
Using More Feminine Voice For Another Guy
“When she uses a higher pitched more feminine voice around another guy. It’s what my ex started doing when she claimed he was just a friend. He wasn’t just a friend. A year later and it still hurts that she cheated on me.”
She Guards Her Phone All The Time
“She guards her phone like it’s Fort Knox. Her drive for physical intimacy has gone to almost zero with you. She leaves at random times of the day and to random places with her friends.”
Her Phone’s Back Always Faces You
“Phone behavior. With my ex, I would notice that the back of her phone was always facing me. We’re sitting on the couch, and the back of the phone is facing me. I get up to walk to the kitchen (crossing in front of her), the back of the phone rotates with me.”
There’s Some New Energy About Her That Isn’t Directed Towards You
“She gets a new energy about her but it’s not directed towards you.
She starts to do more with her appearance when she goes out, different clothes and new underwear if it’s serious.
She uses her phone more, it’s usually face down and out of your reach. She will have an innocent excuse for changing her passcode and will get defensive if you ask what the new one is, as if ‘you don’t trust me’.”
Sudden Unexplained Changes
“Takes a shower immediately upon coming home; doesn’t greet you beforehand. Sudden unexplained changes in routine or interest. Purposefully starting fights so they have an excuse to leave the house and hang out with their ‘bestie’ to vent.
Getting defensive of their personal phone, laptop, etc. You find some personal pics in their gallery that were never sent to you. Avoidance of long-term planning.”
Projection
“One telltale is projection. If she’s mad paranoid about her bf cheating on her and constantly questioning him about it, there’s a chance she’s at it herself. I know from unpleasant experiences.”
No More Eye Contacts
“She never makes eye contact.”
No More Complaining About Things That Were A Problem Before
“Little things that used to bug her she no longer complains about. I had a buddy in the military who would go play Call of Duty with his fellow soldiers a lot and his girlfriend would complain.
She eventually stopped, because she was cheating on him while he was at work or basically any other time he wasn’t there. That couple’s roommate who was also a friend caught her multiple times and finally said she had to come clean or he would do it for her. Nice girl but she was with a lot of men.”
Mean Girl Energy Ultra Pro Max
“Girls will start to become ‘mean’.
Becomes rude and has a low threshold of disgust for anything you do. It’s happened to me twice with different people and manifested exactly this way.”
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This article was originally published on Mrs. Daaku Studio.